tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344Wed, 09 Dec 2009 10:23:43 +0000Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)Blogger92125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-8826656821211651231Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:07:00 +00002009-12-09T00:34:20.161+05:30Aaaah,   As usual when it comes to critisicing MEN some copywriters go Overboard. It must be a very desperate marketing attempt. The Ignominious Shave India Movement is infected by the typical women name calling tactics as the movement is called WALS aka Women Against Lazy Stubble, read the following: "The message that WALS intends to spread to men across the country is three fold: Till men http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/12/gil-let-us-down.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-6668187929652850811Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:51:00 +00002009-11-13T12:28:08.749+05:30  MEN TOO FEEL THE PAIN Whenever I am down, My brother always encourages me by telling “If Gandhiji was not thrown out of the Train, he would have served the British rule as an advocate. But he was the chosen one and so are you all” Save Indian Family was a heart felt cry that came out in 2004-5 and today after all the humiliation Men have decided to create their own space rather than just http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/11/mard-ko-bhi-dard-hota-hai.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-1572440507317348256Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:38:00 +00002009-10-28T18:22:42.641+05:30Mens Movement498aIndian Family FoundationIFFD V ActIndian Family Foundation (Mumbai) Name of the Group: Indian Family Foundation Formed on: 26th October 2009 Contingents: Common people who are threatened or falsely implicated of Wife law misuse. Least Common Factor: Harassed Husbands and Family Members Highest Common Factor: the spirit of fighting back for their constitutional rights inspite of Rejection, Ignominy and underdog status, due tohttp://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/10/indian-family-foundation-iff-launched.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-4737507559923672187Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:25:00 +00002009-07-03T14:21:36.442+05:30I had seen this video 4-5 yrs back before SIF was formed. And it was one of those source that inspired me to go on in life.I have always wondered what would the judges in India (who blindly grant alimony as per an able bodied wife's wish) say after seeing this video. This video should be shown to the Judges of Indian Courts who handle the alimony matters. Who grant Alimony to the Able Bodied http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/07/able-bodied.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-6116913878016425117Mon, 22 Jun 2009 10:53:00 +00002009-06-22T21:23:17.299+05:30Shiney AhujaGang rape498aRapeMass RapeIn past few days Rape wave in the media has again become Bullish. If we believe the headlines trend then it seems like Rapists suddenly have woken up from Slumber and that too in groups. Maybe the bureaucrats want to influence the minds of public via media to pass some stringent laws on rape again with specifics against men and non neutral with loop holes open for misuse. Oh ya we know what wouldhttp://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/06/india-mass-rape-vs-raping-mass.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-9143313266943629237Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:16:00 +00002009-06-21T22:14:47.984+05:30Today Evening I heard Rajesh Vakharia of SIF Nagpur sighing to me on the phone that his child did not make it on Fathers Day and he was pining and feeling very lonely for someone calling him Pappa. This pain in the voice inspired me to write this post on what could be the plight of the Child too. As I feel apart from Fathers, children deprived of parental love are the worst to suffer, deprival ofhttp://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/06/essay-topic-my-father.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-1658992422279545603Wed, 03 Jun 2009 17:40:00 +00002009-06-03T23:35:50.773+05:30498aDVkatjubell bajaoAlimonySupreme CourtWhich door do we Knock?: Indian HusbandsWhen the bell bajao campaign hit the screens most of the males who had come for counseling informed me that they too knocked the door of the neighbors when their wives harassed them. In some cases Hubby and his parents were rescued by neighbors from a violent and abusive Surpanakha disguised as Chandi / Sita who would only respect her illogical http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/06/ab-kahan-bell-bajaou.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-3231982221991253549Mon, 30 Mar 2009 10:19:00 +00002009-03-30T16:35:34.750+05:30Well actually I was very lucky in police matters when it was needed. As I did not face all the hurdles with the police that I get to hear from victims over the helpline and in meetings. But finally I saw how they treat Indian husbands and Indian Male by the very virtue of their being one.I witnessed two cases where the attitude of police was clearly not in favor of the male. One of them being http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/03/bow-wow-indian-police-on-indian-men.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-3827530143149691191Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:45:00 +00002009-03-11T21:47:12.275+05:30They were typical guys next door who wanted wife, who was a girl next door, their family did not bother about her financial well being but were bothered about her nature and attitude in life.Alas! Things did not go smooth with them. And they were victims of one sided Indian law(s). They were all from the hardworking ethical strata of society. With no criminal background of the family a normal http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/03/4-years-ago-sif-reported-bug.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-5005198843979261531Thu, 19 Feb 2009 18:51:00 +00002009-02-20T00:30:14.594+05:30Every Sunday at National Park Borivali atleast 10 SIF members meet of which 30-50% are new entrants as of the trend in the past 3 months. After listening to all the stories we feel nice giving solutions too. But in the background Peter Tchaikovsky’s March Slave rings supreme. That is to say the mood is very depressive at times. But now Entertainer of Scott Joplin would ring in our ears.Well it ishttp://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/02/pappu-can-laugh-sala.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-1731730875812191923Sun, 18 Jan 2009 17:23:00 +00002009-01-19T21:35:03.509+05:30jailministry for menAlimonyncmMoney is anyway going from our pockets, so let us Use it for Constructing a better and Separate Jail for Husbands rather than Funding a Financial Terrorist..I would quote Sant Kabir on begging.....“Mangan Maran Saman Hai, Mat Koi Mange Bheekh, Mangan Se Marna Bhala, Yeh Satguru Ki Seekh”Translation: "Begging is like perishing, none should go imploring, It is better to die than beg, this is pure http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/01/choose-1-better-jail-for-hubbies-or.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-7411466124836198866Sat, 03 Jan 2009 10:57:00 +00002009-01-03T17:36:59.146+05:30SowryHusbands498aDowrydomestic violenceAlimonyIndian WomenIndian Girls are born here but made elsewhere because in India it is believed legally that women are dependent and inferior. Thought they had voting rights right from the beginning as compared to the western world yet the capable lot is swayed by the thinking of being under privileged inspite of a lady ruling the country for 17 yrs (Indira Gandhi) and now as a president (Pratibha Patil).The http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2009/01/alimony-kills-her-real-potential.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-2576463039824457650Thu, 25 Dec 2008 10:40:00 +00002008-12-25T22:13:39.380+05:30 Click on the image for a larger Picture.http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/12/gender-chessboard-in-india.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-6354688908796288949Sun, 30 Nov 2008 06:08:00 +00002008-12-09T11:51:24.522+05:30Years ago I was listening to Swami Sukhbodhanand on Aastha channel and he was explaining the meaning of the word ritual and how we generally do many such things in life. He gave an anecdote for better understanding.The story goes like this..There was a Guru who had mastered the scriptures. One day, when he was teaching Vedas to his disciples, a cat was moving around. This, however, did not http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/11/ritual-called-alimony.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-6799055100249239227Thu, 02 Oct 2008 09:01:00 +00002008-10-02T16:38:15.729+05:30Salute to the Apostle of Self Reliance, Non Violence and Civil DisobedienceToday pledge to give your estranged wife, a lifestyle free from dependency....:Do not give her AlimonyGift her something better. :Do not fetch her a fish daily,Gift her a fishing rod for once instead.and thus encourage Joint Custody of the Victim Child,and promote Domestic Harmony."Non-cooperation with evil is as much a http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/10/self-reliance-vs-alimony.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-9154906471376197358Fri, 15 Aug 2008 12:46:00 +00002008-08-15T18:23:54.827+05:30Last week I got a call on my cell of a harassed Indian husband, who weeps daily for his daughter whom he has not seen from past 2 years, she is not yet 3 yrs old, he carries her snap and is also sad that his parents are too missing her. He can only guess how she looks and is wondering what will his wife who has kept her away from him would tell her about her dad when she grows. Nevertheless is http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/08/indianhusbandscom.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-1907436436960464703Mon, 30 Jun 2008 12:20:00 +00002008-08-02T21:15:32.277+05:30Husband Dies and wife gets the status of a legal heir. Wife dies and husband is jailed along with his relatives as a suspected dowry death skewing the statistics. Or more so a score settling tactic by her relatives who inturn demand money thus encashing on the opportunity.This is because in India if the wife dies within 7 years (NCW recommends lifetime) of marriage it is presumed to be a dowry http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/06/indore-sowry-death-and-formation-of.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-3185234704924318247Sat, 31 May 2008 14:57:00 +00002008-06-24T20:36:56.056+05:30Somedays back the newspapers quoted the Bombay HC on the non compundable cases. They were of the opinion that these cannot be diluted by means of compromising. Specially the cases of Dowry (section 498a) which are taken into consideration which helps the complaining bride with a state lawyer, plus the non bailable nature ensures that the bail is done only at the magistrate level and also the http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/05/cant-undo.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-1911785120502196700Sun, 27 Apr 2008 16:39:00 +00002008-04-27T22:32:16.906+05:30When we talk about Gender Equality, let us mean it. Lets us have a balance in law by having something that takes care of the misuse of law loopholes that leads to exploitation of a husband. Else more and more husbands may have their own hopeless verdicts that may be a lose lose situation. Can't Pretend Sleep after such precedences.The unfortunate case of the failed saptapadi between Amit http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/04/provoked-and-hurt.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-2999441729813811435Sat, 08 Mar 2008 10:36:00 +00002008-03-09T16:46:19.859+05:30There are loopholes in Indian Laws, that would make a wife a control freak and a man henpecked or handcuffed, the situation is something to take a note of. And as a more prompt effect when such a control freak law falls in hand of an already control freak wife, she simply freaks out on her legal husband and his relatives. A balanced law is hence needed. .The side effect of a no penalty on misuse http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/03/bichade-sabhi-bari-bari-like-toy_09.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-3140184947077712729Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:22:00 +00002008-03-17T22:16:18.576+05:30They would sigh, “I used to date her once upon a time every now and then, and now I just get the court dates, every now and then. After meeting a partner it seems life is all about dates dates and dates.” This is what most of the guys undergoing cases tell me. Offlate even girls too have been calling up and displaying the same mindsets stating “Date parr to abhi bhi jaate hain lekin paristhiti http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/02/court-cases-running-on-treadmill.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-8618265728611571165Thu, 31 Jan 2008 16:07:00 +00002008-02-04T22:39:21.707+05:30Guys,This post is dedicated to my father F N Zaveri (18th Dec 1933 – 26th Jan 2008)It is such a guy thing, such a formal thing for a guy to hug his father, express his emotions, whereas normal for a girl to do so. Generally guys are shy in doing so. This includes our dads too. But then the fondness is so constant and second to none, that these extreme feelings do co-exist in all of us. I am not http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/01/did-you-hug-you-father-today.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-8227354673573473951Mon, 31 Dec 2007 16:29:00 +00002008-01-20T22:32:42.013+05:30Post counseling I have certain standard questions that I ask to all victims, For a false 498a-ed, I do not miss asking the day of arrest as Friday (still happening). That there has to be a god motherly figure for the girl to have instigated the threat or 498a or DV in reality.I ask my female acquaintances who are bold enough to discuss with me the state of affairs, given the fact that I am not http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2008/01/pati-patni-aur-parents-ya-police.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-5160506658478539545Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:14:00 +00002007-12-02T14:00:46.462+05:30498amens daydomestic violenceAlimony406Dear Indian Husbands... Come out of the ignorance, for the sake of your parents and siblings. Ministers are OK... but we cannot be Ok with the misuse of Law. We pay Taxes and the same money is used against the Husband by providing a State Sponsored Lawyer who fights a False case against us without investigation. Merely on a statement of a Bride without crosscheck the arrests are being made and wehttp://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2007/11/dear-indian-husbands.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15253344.post-7305081241216714447Wed, 31 Oct 2007 12:59:00 +00002007-11-04T18:41:03.631+05:30On the completion of one year of DV ACT, one conventional, conservative and politically correct channel had invited a group of DV ACT supporters and handful victims of wife centric laws who turned activists. I saw the way the programmed was biased against the victims and there was no equality of opportunity for expression. And as far as knack of clever misinterpretation was considered the http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2007/10/498a-and-dv-act-forced-justification.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Jinesh Zaveri)6