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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Success to Feminists: Thanks to “the guy next door is bad” syndrome.

Discussing the myth that harassed husbands are small minority in India.

What would happen if Majority of People feel that they are in minority?  Be it for goodness or be it for being a victim. Well then majority of the people will support the laws for a minor section thinking them as remedy or welfare for the majority and in reality only a minor portion is attended where as majority would suffer.

Imagine also a group of unaffected people in a society where every individual believing and reading the skewed stats that shows how demon the Indian husbands are, and how 'only the Indian wives' could be Cow-ish (gai jaisi)' and can be like nothing else. Ah well, unless they are hit by a 498a or DV and they google for our help on the net.

Till then, that person would first sub consciously work on the thought that well I am good but not all people around me are and they are wife beaters and dowry takers. Imagine 9 out of 10 persons having atleast one of this belief and mentality and they think...
- I do not beat my wife, but large majority does, and or  
- I do not take Dowry but large majority do,
- I do not have problems with Gender of my kid but majority does
- I do not commit sexual harassment at work place but others do.
- I know how to compromise and insist that others should also compromise and that is right if not they are wrong as the reasons that they face can’t be more than what I face.
But apart from them they think that they are nice but their neighbors are not as good as them. So the reality is 9 out of 10 good people think that other than them 9 out of 10 people are bad. I would call this as a “The Guy Next Door is Bad Syndrome.” And guess what the guy next door thinks the same about you and the rest.

He would think he is the only 1 who is not the wife beater etc but others are, including YOU. Where as the real 1 out of 10 stats would remain best hidden as ‘1/10’ and would be believed and wrongly perceived and projected as 9/10. This would now become the base of the thought process that would call for amendments. So all innocents would consider the other innocents as suspects and culprits.

When one would hear the story of that 1 perpetuator he would believe that this is one such case from the majority and whereas himself he is one lucky exception who worships his wife.
Note: (9/10 and 1/10 are used as a pointer for sake of discussion)

Based on this hauva or illusion, men in distress don’t get support. And the movement does not get support by the society who thinks that this guy is one such exceptional case out of the adverse majority. And they are berated by the courts to pay up and also suffer. As the entire ecosystem believes that I am a good guy but the guy next door is bad.

Reverse idea: on seeing a man suffering people feel that only minority of men suffer and one in front is one such exception who does not know how to compromise like him. They believe again that majority women suffer; and hence mens movement does not need attention and its all funny.

But the ones with wisdom (very very few people) till date have agreed that no men or women should suffer as a result of systems’ loophole being over looked. Me too would not advocate an anti-gender law but rather a law that is gender blind. 

Besides, After reading the ignominious headlines of 50% asset share of wife in property of husband for Maharashtra State and Irretrievable breakdown of Marriage law from centre, Every caller would ask me what am I doing about the problems in society.

Again the next door syndrome here works that people want Major Unnikrishnans, Vijay Salaskars, Shaheed Bhagat Singh and Mahatma’s in the society, but not in their families rather in their next door neighborhood. They don’t want to lead by example but want an example at distance who would lead and protect.

God Save My India and My Indians.

Jinesh Zaveri.

8 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jinesh,

The optimum use of
one's strength of character,
a steel will and
a compassionate heart is required for such 'LEADS'.

Not each Indian man utilises these assets of his to the utmost alike you. CHEERS !

JaiSatChitAnand

Wed Jul 04, 06:05:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Niladri said...

In Economics this is basically called "information asymmetry". Dr George Akerlof, an Economist from MIT, was amongst the first, to work on this phenomenon, partially in India, and wrote a paper on the same phenomenon titled "The Market for Lemons". Most of the journals did not publish and threw the paper in the dustbin, and finally one journal published it. Some 30 years later Dr Akerlof won the Noble Prize in Economics in 2001, for the very same paper, which the others threw into the dustbin. It is an astonishing subject and still remains as one of my favorites :-)

Wed Jul 04, 10:46:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Sandesh said...

Jinesh Sir, Very apt as always.

Is this an issue with men only ?

Are there any cultural issues related to this phenomena ?

Wed Jul 04, 04:10:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When you marry....its like handing over yourself to a person with AK47 fully loaded. The trigger can b pulled on purpose, accident etc. Many of then dont know how to hold a gun too. The man is at high risk, sleeping with a person with AK47

Wed Jul 04, 05:27:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Amit Deshpande said...

Until I complain of chest pain no one else would know am having a heart attack. If men dont come out and air their grievances, this will continue. The solution will lie amongst us.

Wed Jul 04, 07:52:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Thanks Niladri, Amit, anon and Sandesh Sir for your views. Keep 'em flowing.

Sat Sep 15, 05:55:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Sandip Shinde said...

well said jinesh.

Sat Aug 03, 05:34:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger The Swapnil Tale said...

please give me your contact, i have same issue to discuss with you guys.

Fri Feb 13, 12:14:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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