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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Tuesday, September 13, 2005

Mumbai Meeting No.1

A Sunday that no one would have wanted to quit home. A Sunday which everyone would have wanted to spend watching Gauri Ganpati Visarjan. A Sunday if nothing at least one would have spent lazing around and enjoying the untamed versions of Mumbai rain. But, as the saying goes "there is never a wrong time to do the right thing". And hence the most desired meeting took place with quality people.

The day was apt, and so was the bus, which was boarded. Courageblue1 and myself were to board it from W.E Highway and guess what!! we got in to a bus with a route number 498, that led us to the desired destination of the meeting. Six battered husbands and 1 sister of a victim attended the meeting. Gokul and courageblue1 drove the proceedings along with Bluewolf.
The stories of all the victims sounded tragic.

Being a male problem no tears were seen but yes clouds occasionally wept. All the victims ostensibly were down to earth people from a sound middle class background and values of the highest esteem in the society. Empathy was in air, so was helplessness. But the hopes and convictions were high and so were the intentions. The interruptions of the rain in the open to air café resembled the hurdle that each one of us are facing. But the morals were high and we were searching the silver lining to the cloud.

The ball has set to roll and the consensus was to carry on helping each other and repeat such activity. At the end with maturity as the undercurrent and helplessness as the overtone, the meeting was curtained it was understood as pointed out by one of the members that men don't speak even after they have suffered, they just laugh it out on themselves, but seriously "We now no longer can be reduced to a Laughing Stock, as sisters and parents too are involved." And hence a lot needs to be done.

And that is why with quality people we are sure to get more people participating and not shying away.

Prayers for all those stuck.

Jinesh Zaveri.

11 Comments:

Anonymous Gokul said...

One surges forward and can attain and excel his potential only when he knows no fear. And fear is alleviated only with removing the 'Lack of Knowledge' aspect. Its the same thing we are aiming by getting together and brainstorming, in addition to giving moral support for the shattered.

Will pick up pace soon, Mumbai need to contribute, if not lead.

Wed Sep 14, 02:07:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Swarup said...

Dont worry friends you are not alone , we are here at delhi , bangalore , jaipur , us , kanada , uk ... all over the world . Go ahead and hit as hard as you can , we have to teach a lesson those Modern Suparnakhs and Ravans , we will stop this legal terrirosm . may be those suparnakhs and Ravans are more power full in terms of money , contact , but we have truth with us .. we will not tolerate this SOWRY harrasement .

Let all Mumbai people come together and raise your voice agaisnt his in justice and legal terririsom by Modern Suparnakhs and Ravans.

regards
swarup

Wed Sep 14, 03:19:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Sanjeev Kumar said...

Dear All,

Its a good hearing that you all could make it a good happening.

I was on a Company tour for the last 10 days and hence, could not attend.

Wish you all a good luck.

sanjeev

Wed Sep 14, 05:19:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous satish said...

I am having peculiar problem. My wife and I got married in 2001. Her father gave us 4 lakhs as wedding gift. We spent it on buying TV, fridge and other important items. I also used 1 lakh out of that for my sister's marriage, but only after getting wife's permission. She said ok, so I spent.

3 months back, I made a mistake of becoming too friendly with a female friend. Now my wife wanting to leave me. She is refusing to stay. We don' thave childrens.

She says seh will file 498a against me, if i don' tgiv 4 laks. Tell me.. did we not use that 4 lakh together. For our pleasures. I never asked for dowry, just askd her father to do whatever he cud to make us happy. all fathers have to pay for daughters marriages. what is wrong with that. it is our tradition to do that.

can i also join your group. i am also wanting relief

Wed Sep 14, 05:50:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Mr. Satish,

I am very much shocked to hear the blunders in your married life.

First of all you accepted your father in law's Money that is disgraceful.

Secondly you used it for your sisters marriage. How can your moral/conscience permit you to do that?

Thirdly, getting close to a girl etc. Well you sounded guilty so I would take it as your guilty intrigue. Would you prefer your wife getting close to a man? then why such exceptions?

Please read my sita/surpanakha article. Your case with the current details looks like case no.2 or case no.3.

Your Comment "all fathers have to pay for daughters marriages. what is wrong with that. it is our tradition to do that." is very disturbing.

Nevertheless you may write personally to me I would like to know more about your case. If you are innocent, then you may join the group.

Sorry if I am sounding harsh. But feel Free to approach.

These are completely my views.

Jinesh Zaveri.

Wed Sep 14, 08:49:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous satish said...

There is nothing wrong in taking monies. It wasa gift. My parents gifted us a car. So?

Plus, what is wrong with a little flirt onside. it was mistake, so why punishment for that. Afterall evne Lord Krishna had 16000 wives and had gopi friends. I am a Yadav, and inmy community men have more freedoms. Because women should be pure.

If a girl gts close to another man, her baby will be that man's. I cannot get pregnant. So not my problem!

My stupid wife has now gone to a feminst company and is seeking relief from them. I think you all also hate women, so let me joins you.

Thu Sep 15, 08:24:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

MY REACTIONS TO YOUR COMMENTS IN ALL CAPS. TO DIFFERENTIATE EASILY WHILE READING.

Satish Said...
There is nothing wrong in taking monies. It wasa gift. My parents gifted us a car. So?

Plus, what is wrong with a little flirt onside. it was mistake, so why punishment for that. Afterall evne Lord Krishna had 16000 wives and had gopi friends. I am a Yadav, and inmy community men have more freedoms. Because women should be pure.

JINESH:
SINCE YOU ARE GIVING EXAMPLE OF LORD KRISHNA, I WOULD ADD THE FOLLOWING..
a. ON YOU FLIRTING WITH A STRANGER LADY...
GENTLEMAN, I AM A JAIN, BUT HAVE EQUALLY BEEN FASCINATED BY VAISHNAV RELIGION (LORD KRISH WAS COUSIN OF 22ND JAIN TIRTHANKAR). IF YOU ARE FROM MUMBAI AND IF WE HAPPEN TO MEET, THEN I WILL PROUDLY MAKE YOU HEAR MY RINGTONE OF CELL PHONE WHICH IS A TUNE OF VAISHNAV BHAJAN OF NARSI MEHTA "VAISHNA VAJAN TO..."
AS A VAISHNAV YOURSELF I WOULD LIKE YOU TO TAKE A NOTE OF THIS BHAJANS'S THIRD STANZA WHICH IS
"1.SAM DHRISTI, NE TRISHNA TYAGI,
2.PAR STREE JANE MAAT RE"
IT MEANS TO HAVE FREEDOM FROM DESIRES AND TO CONSIDER ANY OTHER LADY AS EQUAL TO YOUR MOTHER."

B.FURTHER IN THE SAME STANZA ON MONEY ACCEPTANCE...
"3.JIHUA THAKI ASATYA NA BOLE,
4.PAR DHAN NAU JHALE HAATH RE"
THE 4TH LINE SUGGESTS THAT A REAL VAISHNAV ALSO DOES NOT HAVE AN EYE ON ANYONE ELSE'S MONEY APART FROM WOMEN.

ALSO NOTE WE ARE NOT LORD KRISHNA AND IF WE WANT TO IMBIBE THE TRUE RELIGION THEN FIND A DRAUPADI WHO IS BEEN MOLESTED BY DUSHASHAN AND SAVE HER, ALSO LIFT THE GOVARDHAN, AND KILL THE DEMON SNAKE" LORD KRISHNA HAD ONE AND ONLY RUKSMANI, IT WERE THE GOPIS WHO WERE KRISHNA CRAZY AND NOT VICE-VERSA.

Satish Said...
If a girl gts close to another man, her baby will be that man's. I cannot get pregnant. So not my problem!

JINESH:
WHAT IF THIS WOULD HAVE HAPPENED WITH YOUR MOTHER OR SISTER?

Satish Said...
My stupid wife has now gone to a feminst company and is seeking relief from them. I think you all also hate women, so let me joins you.

JINESH:
HEY WE DO NOT HATE WOMEN, WE LOVE THEM, I AM TALKING ABOUT SITAAS IN OUR SOCIETY. AND YOU ARE GROSSLY MISTAKEN, YOU DO NOT QUALIFY OUR MEMBERSHIP IF YOU ARE A WOMEN HATER, YOU GOT TO BE A VICTIM OF A SURPANAKHA OR RAVAN.

I REQUEST YOU TO SEND ME YOUR MAIL ID

"Jai Shree Krishna."
- Jinesh Zaveri

Thu Sep 15, 10:05:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Swarup said...

Dear Mr.Satish

Take my grantee , your wife will not file the false 498A against you , if it is true that you have taken 4 lacks from your father- in- law , so just relax and enjoy the life .

Yes if you have not taken any money from them , then she will file the 498A against you , by mentioning that you are asking money from them . Because once she filed 498A , she have to divorce you , 498A used for getting easy divorce , blackmailling , extrotion of money .

Next time if your wife threat you for false 498A , just record the conversion and submit the same to police station and file a RCR in court on that basis section 9 .

So just relax and enjoy the life , no one will be dare to touch you , as their money is with you , consult a good criminal laywer , he/she will guide you very nicely .
regards
swarup

Fri Sep 16, 10:46:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger CruiserDeep said...

Hey Ram,

Satish, whatever is happening is a bit above my comprehension, but I think you are taking things lightly or you are into fiction writing. Because if u fear a 498a complaint, you should be shitting bricks if u really have wronged.

If money has been spent jointly and with consent of your wife, i dont think theres any problem- u know the situation better.

If u had a small fling, its ok too, but u dont have any right to justify it with saying I can have 15999 more and then I will equal Krishna's tally(16008 wives is left open to anyone's interpretation- I think those times too men were as fearful as women, as they are today, that they did not go near women. Hence women had to romance a constuct/man called krishna to satisfy their love needs!)

You do things, because u can, good, but if u don't have ethics, you are just another anti-social element- I am sorry. Impregnating unsuspecting women is not valour, there are a lot of Paid services if you are yearning for some chauvenistic pleasures- try them some time, thats definitely better than cheating someone with your heart.

Get well soon,
Deep

Fri Sep 16, 06:33:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous satish said...

satishd_yadav@rediffmail.com

498A not big deal in Kanpur. Haha! If you know Varma sahib, sab kuch hojatha haai. But things are complicated because the case is frm jaipur, and court maybe different then..

you guys are not suitable fo rme.

Fri Sep 16, 08:37:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jinesh,

Good wishes to the activist in you. These ideals would take you and SIF places.
The ideal combo of religion and spirituality is bound to create charisma.

Sat Jul 07, 12:40:00 AM GMT+5:30  

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