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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

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Friday, September 16, 2005

Another Victims' Father Bites the Dust.

Just last Sunday Mumbai had its first meeting of victims.

It Included 6 Husbands and 1 Sister of a Victimised husband. Like I said that all the victims' stories sounded tragic, but today that is just 5 days later, the sister who attended the meeting sends me an SMS "MY DAD IS NO MORE, HE GOT MASSIVE ATTACK, FUNERAL TOMORROW..." on probing she sent me an SMS stating that it was all because of the prevailing tension of her brothers case... the father could not bear the shock and to add fuel to the fire were the calls from the Mother-in-law and Daugher-in-law for the Divorce.

More Details after I get the exact update from Donna, The Funeral will be at Holy Cross Church at 11.00 am, Kamani, Kurla West on 17th Sept 2005.

Members of the Save Indian Family expresses their Heartfelt Condolences to Donna Swamy, Philip and the family for this irrepairable loss. And sincerely pray to god for strength to the family to bear the Shock. May the soul of their father rest in peace.

God Please Listen to our Prayers. We Pray that the day comes soon when we are able to STOP this Legal Terrorrism and Murders in Pre and Post 498A Stage.

Prayers and Condolences for all those who have lost their Innocent Dear ones as a Victim of Law.

Jinesh Zaveri


Blogger Satya said...

I am really sorry to hear this. May God help the relatives and friends of the family. For every case that comes in the news, there are 100s other who do not have means to reach us.
We are against the violence against anyone, be it be man or women. Indian government recognizes the pain, sufferings and voice of women, but what about men and their relatives ?

May God help all of His children irrespective of genger

Sat Sep 17, 12:44:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Akhil Swaroop said...

Dear Donna & Family,
I am a fellow member & am sorry for the grave loss. We pray for peace & tranquility for the departed soul & trust me he is in a better place & now can use his influece with the supreme being himself & watch over you & your family.
God bless,

Sat Sep 17, 09:14:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Swarup said...

My only tow word to Dona and their family .

We are here to do our duty .. wish your father a happy soul .

But , will you forgive those had draged and responsible to such incidence ??
Give me those Suparnakhs and Ravans name , who had killed our Moder Sita's father , at least i will pary to god , they should not get a peach full life for the rest of the life .

I know our goverment , media , court will not say anything to those Modern Suparnakhs and Ravans , but one day our future generation will come to know and give the necessary punishment .

Sorry , i am little harsh , but at the same time we have to face the situation .. this war had not started by us .. they have started . we have to finish this legal terrirosm.

Sat Sep 17, 11:08:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Gitesh said...

Heart Felt Condolences for Donna's Father

Sat Sep 17, 11:11:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Peter II said...

Heartfelt codolense to the family and may god give them strength to come out of this.

Lets tell President, PM, Journalists in India what is happening to innocent families etc. We don't want any more of this to happen to the rest of us.

Sat Sep 17, 11:13:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous "laserjet1000" said...


Indeed a sad moment for all the victims to hear this news. May god
give the family the strength to overcome this loss and win the case.
May his soul rest in peace.


Sat Sep 17, 11:16:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Bharat said...

This is such a shocking news. May God give strength to the family
during these sad times. We understand this is a loss so
overwhelming, so tragic, no words can be of use.

How much more blood of innocent victims, these Surpnakhas and Ravans


Sat Sep 17, 11:19:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Naveen said...

Very sorry to hear this sad news. My heartful condelenses to the members of the family.

Some thing struck my mind when thinking about how many cases are being filed(misused) using 498A every day.
Correct me if I am wrong.
Instead of just we go by the number of cases filed and how many of them being misused, how would it be if we go like this.

per say, if there are 100 cases filed.
Out of these 100 say 60 are valid(where in the wife has been really harrassed), (Please be patient, don't think that, I am giving wrong numbers, I know this number is not correct).
So in these 60 cases, how many human beings are facing problems or harrased ? 60 , isn't it right?
Now in the remaining 40 cases where in the 498A is mis used,
How many human beings are forced in to problems and troulbes and harrassements by daughter-in-law, FIL, MIL, Police? Any guesses ?
At an average in every mis used 498A case, there are 5 human beings are facing this case, so

I would say not less than, 200 human beings. What would you say?
Am I wrong in this? Might be, if I am wrong, then the correct would be more than 200 innocent human beings are facing the problems.

So then who is suffering more? My point of informing this is, to tell any one(Women Organizations or Human Resources or News Reporters or the government) who says more number of girls are being harrased than the number of mis used cases. Show them this example and let us see what they say.

Please share your thoughts.

Sat Sep 17, 11:34:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Bharati said...

another incident of elder abuse and driving an elderly man to an untimely death.

Sat Sep 17, 11:35:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Ramesh said...

Very sorry to know that Ms Donna and Philip lost their father because of this family tension.

High time we all rise together and put an end to this nuisance once for all.

Yesterday i met the Deputy Comissioner of Police and explained to him the total misuse of law. He said police is helpless and it is only the Govt and the Courts which needs to amend the Law. He was very symphatetic and understanding. Also understand lot of people in the police force are also victims of this law.


Sat Sep 17, 12:53:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger CruiserDeep said...

May be Donna's father is lucky to be called, and not having to face this stressful and undeserving situation. For those who are still here and have to face the injustice, please do firm up your minds and see these hurdles with a problem solving attitude. Rage, Sadness, Scheming(brooding without actions) etc. will only affect you mind.

Instead think of this as a combat situation, there need not be any emotional thoughts when u think of eliminating the root cause- the victory should be aimed without any other considerations in mind.

Which each blow that comes your way, pick up that much more strength and determination. We are all here for each other, so dont feel alone at all. Just call out , if you guys need help.


Sat Sep 17, 02:19:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Donna said...

Dear Friends,

Thanks for your wishes and support. I resumed today at work. My dad's news was a real shock to our entire family as we never expected him to depart from us so soon we were sure he would like till 70 to 75yrs or may be more he had completed 64 yrs on 9th aug and started 65yrs. He was very normal and fine as usual but we couldn't read his major tension that might have disturbed him terribly for couple of days. As my SIL, MIL used to call and my brother updated at home and dad was excited and tensed and asked my elder sister to finalise the meet and finish off on sunday i.e 18th Sept,05 but he passed away on 16th Sept,05 between 11.20 to 11.25 am. He suddenly started feeling guidy and abnormal sweating my mom offered him water he drank and said i'm better and asked my mom to move to make medicine for my younger sis who was sick with fever and she being sick when saw dad sweating ran to call doctor and other younger sis started making calls to me and brother and was nervous in that very few seconds my dad went cold and couldn't take him to the hospital nor doctor reached on time.

My dad was the strongest person to bear anything in life very courageous and if he could loose hope with tension I can imagine others. People couldn't believe he is no more and one of our neighbour said he told him that very morning about my brother that I have only one son and such and such is the problem he is a person who will not share any home problem in public. Also, milkman said he was saying he was upset and feeling sick. If we would know this before we all left home for work could have saved our dad by taking him immediately to hospital. He was like a big huge tree for us that has fallen. My dad's death seems to our like we have lost the world. He was everything to us. We would rely for each and every thing unto him. He had all the possible good qualities in him like sincere, honest, truthful, kind, very generous and it is countless to say. He was so blessed that every human being men, women, children all had tears in their eyes and took blessing by touching his feet we felt like god and three priest gave mass usually it is only one priest infact, 6 to 8 priest wanted to give mass but the funeral was postponed to 3.30pm as my sisters who are studying in mangalore got stranded on the way and few priest had to give mass other places. His friends visit his grave and pray for him without our knowledge usually only relatives tend to visit grave most of the time.

We informed my SIL about his death as people said we must tell as a duty and they didn't bother to wish us nor came home to see but came to church and mother and two daughter were laughing all people saw them and within 7 days we have 7 days mass unlike hindus have 13 days rites and at this hour my SIL calls up and troubles my brother asking for divorce she started with saying I'm sorry to disturb you at this moment but Im going out of state and want to finish this matter. Also, she said good i left your house and your father poor soul too as your sisters and mother ill-treated him and never respected him he was such a nice man.

Yesterday we met our parish priest to finalise this matter and all priest knew about my dad the reason for his death was my SIL.
Now they willingly said ok you can go for separation without reconcilling. She wants us to go thru court so that my brother can never get married. But he spoke boldly this time and said we were married in church and I will follow that first.

The sunday we all met I went home and discussed with my parents and brother and I encouraged my dad saying don't worry nothing will happen and she cannot drag us to police station and also as one of our catholic friend gave me some details that separation is possible in 6months, one year etc. Dad was convinced. But these people started calling and harrassing so he started thinking so much we never knew it will conclude with his death else I would have taken him outstation for a change.

I can never forget this loss. I pray and request your prayers that we all should come out of such situation and make such people realise their mistakes.

Please stay in touch.


Wed Oct 12, 09:35:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger sudhir said...

Very sorry to know that Ms Donna and Philip lost their father..May God help the relatives and friends of the family.

i am also a victim of 498a.me and
my family suffering a lot due to this case..even have to live in the prision for three days..i am also given 3000 per months to her for maintinence..will you please tell me about any delhi based organization who helps the people againgst this law.

Fri Jul 27, 05:59:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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