"Henpecked or Handcuffed"

My biggest crime is that I was Born as an Indian Male.

If you are an Indian Male you can be unlucky because of your wife, If you are a Hindu Male you are the most Hopeless case on the earth. Read on to realize this. I have written my feelings on his (indian male) personal experiences.

Early in school he saw that his girl-classmates never paid fees, their education was for free. He was never jealous of them, but felt that same books, same teachers, same school, but, he was charged because he was a boy(male). He felt only if he too was a girl, but felt proud to be what he was and kept on moving.

When he was in 10th standard, he was told that he belongs to open category. He will have to compete with backward category students who inspite of lesser percentages will get admission in good colleges/ courses. He felt only if he were a backward class boy. But then he said that he was a proud hindu male and kept moving.

When He got graduated from college, He was then, told to fill up the form for employment registration and that’s where he had to tick mark in the column for open category, as there were reservations for backward class and also for women and minority. That is where he again felt that should have belonged to any one of the category other than Open category of an Indian Hindu male. But then he said that "he was a proud hindu male" and kept moving.

When He got married, He did not demand and take any dowry as a proud gesture of a Hindu Male of 21st century. But later he got educated by his wife about "Section 498A". She wanted her erratic demands to be fulfilled by me and my family. When he refused to do so, she threatened him of false charges under "section 498A", which would put him and his ailing parents and other relatives (those whom she would wish) to be put in jail, with no proof required by his wife for her false allegations. Thus, The marriage relation by virtue of her vindictive attitude and impossible demands was been forced to be in jeopardy.

But then came the alimony that he was supposed to give since he was a male and she was the now atheist abla with full support of the Hindu Marriage Act .

But, his monthly maintenance amount to his wife can be good enough for her to keep her younger unemployed brothers and old parents happy. So she would not give divorce and she would also anticipate claim from his property, if any. That’s where he realises that why the hell is he a hindu? He cannot remarry again till he gets divorced. Also, his well wishers wanted him to remarry. (A good character this time. But, he now didn’t want to remarry though, as he was once bitten and twice shy.)

Like his wife would feed her brothers too with the alimony. In lighter vain, he feels, if he too had a sister like hers may be she could have done the same thing for him. But, he is also ethically happy that the new law where a girl in a hindu family too has an equal right over property and thus he feels content but confused.

His wife always wanted him to fight with his parents and brothers' family to satisfy her ego. On refusing she used to abuse him by telling him "CHUDIYAN PEHEN LE DARRPOK" (Wear Bangles you coward). I think she is right, Indian male should be wearing bangles as the law has made a fool out of an Indian male and further fool out of a Hindu male.

Hey not a bad idea, victimized Indian Male should atleast get the Bangles back that he had gifted to his wife as a streedhan, as according to her he deserves it more than her isn't it?

Further...
Till date every time I said that “Garva se kaho hum Hindu hai” but as time passed by Tab se mein Afsos ke saath kehta hu Ki Mein ek hindu mard hu. I regret to mention about my Hindu and Indian Identity.

As even the monks say that sab purva bhav ke karmon ka phal hai. (“Its all a result of my wrong karmas in past lives”). Strange! Is that the reason that I am born as a hindu male?

Arey kanoon banane wale, aap ke ghar mein baap, bhai ya bete hai ke nahi? (To the makers of such a Law I would ask that don’t they have a father, brother or son in their house?)

I was made to be henpecked by the laws like 498A and now the DV bill, when I protested I was educated that 498A and DV bill can handcuff me and do more.

So I am handicapped with only two choices is it?

"Henpecked else Handcuffed"

Oh god when will I be hands free?

Disclaimer: These are totally my views, based on certain conditions that are prevailing atlarge in the society. This article salutes and exempts those minority factions that are also prevailing in the society formed only because of good house wives in this 498a and 406 misuse era.

Jinesh Zaveri.