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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Wednesday, September 28, 2005

"Henpecked or Handcuffed"

My biggest crime is that I was Born as an Indian Male.

If you are an Indian Male you can be unlucky because of your wife, If you are a Hindu Male you are the most Hopeless case on the earth. Read on to realize this. I have written my feelings on his (indian male) personal experiences.

Early in school he saw that his girl-classmates never paid fees, their education was for free. He was never jealous of them, but felt that same books, same teachers, same school, but, he was charged because he was a boy(male). He felt only if he too was a girl, but felt proud to be what he was and kept on moving.

When he was in 10th standard, he was told that he belongs to open category. He will have to compete with backward category students who inspite of lesser percentages will get admission in good colleges/ courses. He felt only if he were a backward class boy. But then he said that he was a proud hindu male and kept moving.

When He got graduated from college, He was then, told to fill up the form for employment registration and that’s where he had to tick mark in the column for open category, as there were reservations for backward class and also for women and minority. That is where he again felt that should have belonged to any one of the category other than Open category of an Indian Hindu male. But then he said that "he was a proud hindu male" and kept moving.

When He got married, He did not demand and take any dowry as a proud gesture of a Hindu Male of 21st century. But later he got educated by his wife about "Section 498A". She wanted her erratic demands to be fulfilled by me and my family. When he refused to do so, she threatened him of false charges under "section 498A", which would put him and his ailing parents and other relatives (those whom she would wish) to be put in jail, with no proof required by his wife for her false allegations. Thus, The marriage relation by virtue of her vindictive attitude and impossible demands was been forced to be in jeopardy.

But then came the alimony that he was supposed to give since he was a male and she was the now atheist abla with full support of the Hindu Marriage Act .

But, his monthly maintenance amount to his wife can be good enough for her to keep her younger unemployed brothers and old parents happy. So she would not give divorce and she would also anticipate claim from his property, if any. That’s where he realises that why the hell is he a hindu? He cannot remarry again till he gets divorced. Also, his well wishers wanted him to remarry. (A good character this time. But, he now didn’t want to remarry though, as he was once bitten and twice shy.)

Like his wife would feed her brothers too with the alimony. In lighter vain, he feels, if he too had a sister like hers may be she could have done the same thing for him. But, he is also ethically happy that the new law where a girl in a hindu family too has an equal right over property and thus he feels content but confused.

His wife always wanted him to fight with his parents and brothers' family to satisfy her ego. On refusing she used to abuse him by telling him "CHUDIYAN PEHEN LE DARRPOK" (Wear Bangles you coward). I think she is right, Indian male should be wearing bangles as the law has made a fool out of an Indian male and further fool out of a Hindu male.

Hey not a bad idea, victimized Indian Male should atleast get the Bangles back that he had gifted to his wife as a streedhan, as according to her he deserves it more than her isn't it?

Till date every time I said that “Garva se kaho hum Hindu hai” but as time passed by Tab se mein Afsos ke saath kehta hu Ki Mein ek hindu mard hu. I regret to mention about my Hindu and Indian Identity.

As even the monks say that sab purva bhav ke karmon ka phal hai. (“Its all a result of my wrong karmas in past lives”). Strange! Is that the reason that I am born as a hindu male?

Arey kanoon banane wale, aap ke ghar mein baap, bhai ya bete hai ke nahi? (To the makers of such a Law I would ask that don’t they have a father, brother or son in their house?)

I was made to be henpecked by the laws like 498A and now the DV bill, when I protested I was educated that 498A and DV bill can handcuff me and do more.

So I am handicapped with only two choices is it?

"Henpecked else Handcuffed"

Oh god when will I be hands free?

Disclaimer: These are totally my views, based on certain conditions that are prevailing atlarge in the society. This article salutes and exempts those minority factions that are also prevailing in the society formed only because of good house wives in this 498a and 406 misuse era.

Jinesh Zaveri.


Blogger Bharati said...

Nice story Jinesh but you shoul dnot lose somuch hope in life. You can always marry someone with a house. I belive you can marry indira Jai singh and thenlive in her house with your girlfriend using the DV law.

Wed Sep 28, 02:28:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


Very true Facts and Nice Explaination. The option suggested by Bharati is not bad.

Vina Raj

Wed Sep 28, 03:53:00 PM GMT+5:30  
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Blogger CruiserDeep said...

I always think that every trend has a curve(time vs. lifecycle/sanity), Feminism too, in addition to misuse of 498a. I am only shocked to note that Feminism to not reaching the maturity of its curve, which would be actually humanism(were all human beings are thought of as equals). Feminism as of now seems to be only knee-jerk reactions whenever girls/ladies feel they are not contributing to the mankind, as a cover-up. Why else would anyone have to announce that they are strong, why not just be strong if you have the conviction?. Why else would a wife torment her husband with false cases of 498a IPC section?.

Hope Jinesh finds a good girl, worthy of his attention. Many of the guys in this plight do initially get twice shy about getting back into grihasthasrama.

Me personally have gone forward from this 'twice shy' I have adopted the 'vasudeva kudumbakam'- the microanalysis being- flirt(so much so that, it doesn't cross into the DV arena!) don't get married!, if needed for ever(or until u find that rare lady).


Wed Sep 28, 05:16:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Riskyin said...

Well...if our respected LAW makers have not left any choice for people like you in the name of women welfare/empowerment then It's better to be "handcuffed" once than being "henpecked" for life....

Wed Sep 28, 05:22:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Virodh said...

Hi Jinesh,
I can understand what you are going through, since I'm in the same boat. One thing I have learnt from all of this in the past few mths that are lots of articles, sites and people who are voicing this unbeliveable injustice.

However, not one site, article or person I have spoken too has told me how I can fight back. It times of such distress I choose to step up and fight back. I would recommend that we spend all our time in finding a way out rather than lose hope and complain.

Sorry don't mean to be rude, but I'm outraged by the agony that has casued me and family due to these circumstances and I want to fight, "kill or be killed" is the way of the world we live in. As always my prayers and thoughts are with you and everyone who is with us in these times of turmoil

Wed Sep 28, 08:47:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To Jinesh,

There is a man who is made of "Fire", who will soon join your yahoo/group and start contributing little by little (at first) for the good of the society and to stop this menace that is destroying social infrastructure. That man will change the whole face of Indian society. Have patience and never ever lose hope. That man, the Saviour will join you.

Wed Sep 28, 10:16:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Wasif - A brother in arm said...

Nothing is permanent in life. Keep your resolutions strong, when you have taken this fight....its either death or honour and nothing less. You will find there is more support than you had anticipated, the world is not as unjust as you had thought it to be. If the disease is there, cure has to come (this is nature) and it will come soon if we are not only able to sustain our strength but become stronger with each hinderence.

Thu Sep 29, 02:38:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Raghavendra said...

Very Gud Jinesh Bhai!

I believe we can be friends. We are also believing in Bharatiya Nari and our rich traditions. We are blindingly copying the Western, and loosing our own culture. If Rishi-Munis have said that marriage is pavitra, these days the ladies have ruined marriages. They want too much indpendnce and think just becoz they are earning money, they are wearing pants.

Hamare desh ki mariyaada aurat ke haath hai. Agar aadmi patloon pehne toh yeh toh nahin ki aurat bhi saree pehen ke bikini pehne. Ghar ki izzat aurat ke pallu mein hoti hai.

These ladies are being given too much freedoms. We are an organisations providing trainings to young ladies on how to respect elders, how to cook, how to be respectful towards husbands, how to keep religious fasts, what clothes to wera, how to keep saas-sasur happy.. How to be good bhabhi, bahu, pati and maa.

Unke parr katne hi chahiye, nahin tho chidiya ud jaayegi! I think we both organisations will make good frends. We will contact you soon.

Thu Sep 29, 11:23:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Bharati said...

Raghavendra doesn't get it . WE want equality .Not the kind of lady he wants with his organisation. We do not want to go back to nineteenth century. Our model is based on equality.

Fri Sep 30, 06:45:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous raghavendra said...

Madam Bhartiji,

It is either black or white. Either a woman is pure or impure. We want purity. Women is like cow's milk - little bit also will completely spoil it. It will ruin taste, and na dahi jamegi na banega makkhan.

Either you are feminazi sidd, or on ours.

Fri Sep 30, 08:38:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Apun Ka Desh said...

Nice Post.

Section 498A is a Populist Law, serving no good purpose.

I think URBAN INDIAN WOMAN never had it so good.

Read on:

Fri Sep 01, 07:10:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Rajeev said...



Baki jo jee kare karo .......enjoy ur lifestyle to the FULLEST.....

Not to speak of getting allianced but also don't even make friends with girls who are in professions like STAFF NURSE, TEACHERS

(sufferer of 498A-406-DV Act)

Sat Mar 14, 10:02:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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