As per the instructions in the book, I started sharing the text with my other half by reading it aloud, for me it was like a prelude to a foreplay ;). But according to my other half- the perception problem of mine over took me everytime I tried reading the book aloud. She used to tell me “Bewakuf, You think I do not know all these? Women today are capable of standing on their own Feet”
Well, now I can arguably say that these thinkers do not fit in to covey’s style too, they ridicule every time they some across such school of thought.
Covey Talked 4 Situations (1) Win:Win (2) Win:Lose (3) Lose:Win (4) Lose:Lose
A prologue to this were explained by covey in 3 situations
A) Dependence B) Independence C) Interdependence
A & B are rated below par by Covey. And situation C is Ideal to be highly successful in life.
Our Shastras also say this too, that the departments of life are indoors and outdoors. Outdoors are taken care by the man and Indoors by the wife. But this basic, is challenged in the modern world and hence success formula of a happy marriage is falling apart. Now, women may work, and I am not denying (it is the essence of the nation according to gandhi- and according to me if it is sans 498A rule:D) . Only thing is the perception should be well balanced by both the parties.
Financial independence is seen as success by women, but this independence soon gets on their head in a relationship where the relationship rips apart suddenly. Now in some cases the women adopt to situation A that is of dependence. They would now act to be dependent in front of their ex-husbands and thus misuse the alimony law.Why? I really do not know. The country where great women like Jijabai, Rani Laxmibai and Indira Gandhi were born, why are we getting in to a pseudo shell of abla dependence?
I come from a family, that once blindly supported Indiraji and Rajivji. But, now Indira Gandhi will always be remembered by me as the Mother of the Infamous IPC Section 498A. Indiraji had a famous quote that talked about Win:Win That was
“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.” (quote of the week)then why did she encourage such poorly drafted Law with loopholes and no back up plan for protection of victims?
This mantra of shaking hands have been a super hit in my other departments of life. But in marriage department, many sons of Indiraji’s Indian soil have been a doom because of the loopholes. That does not support the very saying of Indiraji.
Young Indiraji, proudly burnt her doll, because it was not an Indian make. Then why are we adopting unsuccessful western formulas while in wedlock like financial independence over total interdependence (which is successful and ancient) and later after separation the women acts dependent sitting at home? Infact she should be happy then that she is independent and continue working.