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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Monday, November 21, 2005

Oh My God!!!

Amid all the confusion on NDTV’s Sunday talk show with host Pankaj Pachauri, We (Me and my parents) were slapping our foreheads on stupidity perceived as smartness at large who think supporting pre-marital sex is all about sanity. "Oh my God!!! Where art thou?"

I was educated timely by my father and elder brother on sex, loyalty to your spouse and importance of virginity. And we used to discuss on etiquettes for fidelity which generally parents shy away from and which was misunderstood by the audience as “etiquettes of sex” at large in the talk show (you know what I mean?). Most of them were sailing with the wind under mob psychology and giving timely fillers of claps identifying certain irresponsible lines as statements.

I have always been on the opposite side on opinions with incarnate vengeance, for the following people on talk shows

1. Smt. Girija Vyas on 498A and anti male attitude (coz I am a pre 498a victim)

2. Father Dominic Emanuel on his Anti-Hindu views (according to me) coz I am a Hindu, and I like my religion.

But this time I couldn’t help but agree in congruency with them on NOT having pre-marital sex, practicing fidelity and being a virgin for your spouse.

Sex is enjoyment but enjoyment is not all about sex.
To all those who support pre and extra marital sex: Would you favor your mother, sister, wife, Bhabhi, daughter to sleep with some 4-5 people other than your father, Jijaji (bro-in-law), You, or your brother, son-in-law respectively? At the same time would you like your Father, Jijaji or Your brother, son-in-law sleeping with someone else other than your Mother, Sister or Bhabhi, daughter respectively?

I am proudly with my religion on this. All that I would like to say is if you want to sleep with more than one partner(s) then go ahead. I am not forcing you to follow my pattern so do you, do your job mind your business. And at the same time, do not justify your stand in public like Khushbu, that would put our new generation on an identified “outline” by the educated (not just literate) middle class, some justify with conviction and some with guilty intrigue, but why drag a Theosopher? Wanna smoke, eat Gutka? to chup chap khao na, but it is injurious to health and hence do not mislead and kill others in process of advocating your ill habits.

To Khusboo and Condom companies: Rather then spending energies on calling usage of contraceptives as sex education why can’t we spread awareness on fidelity, and virginity. I intend to educate all 'my' new generation on sex and the content would NOT encourage having safe sex with a stranger but It would be on values of Fidelity and Virginity. Sex education is one thing and Code of Conduct is another. These need to be thaught. Else our kids would be at mercy of the quacks, who pose as sex pundits, none other than their peers; who posses the ever dangerous "Semi Knowledge". So many marriages would be saved if Fidelity is understood and practised properly. (Relevant article) Right click to open in new window and continue reading this article

On NDTV I also saw Ranjana Kumari on statistics, Please do research on misuse of 498A it is a better topic. My message to others: Infidelity is as old as mountain and hills but so is Fidelity, so do not enforce and mix statistics with “modern zamana” which is arguably understood as a trend but not a fact. Take examples of the poll before election. Or the projected cricket scores. If we take the trend of success on statistics, then have never been accurate or close to accurate. In other words, taboos do not become legal by help of statistics, simply because the sample trend favours it in majority.
I am not at all a pro women lobbyist, but, a pro male blogger on marriage issues, yet, as a humanist, I would like to extend my support to those virgin girls who prefer a Virgin Husband. And they must rightly do so. And those unfortunate under divorce(d) or widow(er) I would say keep your loyalty intact for your next partner too and expect the same. (will elaborate separately someother time)

Pankaj got an uninvestigated applause for quoting a renowned politician who said that I may be bachelor but not celibate. Fact is : We are talking about pre and post marital sex and not sex for singles by choice. There is no logic to justify anything on this at all. Further on AIDS: It is not choosy in spreading with only post extra maritial sex.

And Pankaj (no hard feelings) but a Chappel coach of media would do a dada on you as far as this talk show is concerned. And myself personally, I would tell you that you should handle such sensitive topics ‘neutrally’, else it may harm the new generation including our kids. Such opinionating by a host is okay in a blog and not a talk show. You all have the liberty to change your opinion, for truth. Read below...

“A devotee of truth may not do anything in deference to convention. He must always hold himself open to correction, and whenever he discovers himself to be wrong he must confess it all costs and atone for it.” - Mahatma Gandhi


Jinesh Zaveri.


Blogger Rebel said...

I couldn't agree more with you, but your blog is indeed commendable. You have presented the facts beautifully. I specially liked your statement, "Sex education is one thing and Code of Conduct is another." How many people would understand the meaning of this statement ? Before these people conduct any particular survey on such pre-marital sex issue, why don't they put a little more efforts to present the "Intent" of such a survey. By presenting the survey results so crudely, they are only informing people that, "hey guys and gals, pre-marital sex is much more common these days so what are you waiting for, lets do it." Media has absolutely no clue what effect it has on the young fresh minds. Everybody are talking about freedom of speech in Khushboo's case. Come on, if she is so famous that she has a temple in South India (that suggests that she is an icon to lot many people), she can't talk anything that could hurt the sentiments of the people even if its true. Its not a matter of freedom of speech, its a matter of respecting the sentiments of the people who has so much admiration for her. More than making sex education in school as a basic subject, they must include "Common sense" subject in schools and colleges. By showing pre-marital sex stories in serials and movies will only increase the incidence and will in no way curb it. Perhaps, this is what they all want, ruin the society.

Mon Nov 21, 09:24:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Bharati said...

Jinesh I am little more libertarian on the view then you are but to my mnd by accusing Tamil women of infidelity she has definitely done a collective 498a . Many Feminists ( opportunists) would like to claim that if a husband says a perticular women is adulterous they would like to jail the man unde 498a while if khushboo does the same they want whole sale licence

Mon Nov 21, 10:16:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Simply WoW !

Just read your opinions on the loyalty issues and again realised the bugs in God's system.

Never mind, just Keep up !

Wed Jul 04, 04:41:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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