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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Friday, November 18, 2005

Alimony: A ticket to ride

Lucknow: Wife ordered to pay maintenance to Husband. (Pssst, she had also filed a case for dowry demand against her husband)

While this comes in as a slap to feminists, it leaves the humanist with some points to ponder with.
That is, is the concept maintenance really justified? Or does it encourage free lunches, giving a free ticket to ride. Genuinly troubled spouses actually want to quit the relation unconditionally. Such cases leave the crook wives with fear on their thinking caps.

Though I was confused and divided on the maintenance to the husbands’ issue. But I feel this as a right time to talk about alimony and maintenance that I have never much talked about. As the attitude of acquiring, demanding, begging is really encouraged by the law in the name of women welfare, but the real victims are not interested, while the crooks encash. Why can’t we look at both the genders equally? By demanding the women generally belittle themselves on one hand then why do they keep on stressing on the other hand that they are stronger. Contradictions Galore.

It is really haunting when your ambitions are killed by a parasite (in the name of separated spouse) who eats up a part of your monthly income {I am not talking of TDS ;)}, but of the alimony which is equally taxing. It means for a certain days of the month you work for your government. And certain days of your month goes to working for the alimony amount for the parasite waiting at the door step to be fed. It all sounds like a grown up dependent child, good for nothing.

It is haunting when you have to pledge some amount every month for the person who has never contributed any good to you, was demanding when together and is demanding when separated, you feel stuck.

The counselor rightly told me when I asked her about the logic for alimony amount. She said “Consider it as an amount pledged to nuisance Value, for the nuisance caused by your spouse.”

In my mumbaiya language I would call it as a monthly “hafta” to the notorious, to keep them at bay. Johny Lever’s Joke, would be apt here, that when a child cries give a nipple in the mouth of the child so that the child shuts up. Crude!!!! but apt.

This case makes my mind and heart conflict with each other. Happy and angry, for both Husband and Wife. Mind on one occasion says this case will open the eyes of the crook ladies; those who are overconfident on the women-favoring-laws, who simply follow the lawyers’ encouraging and misleading advice that actually has a vested interest of the lawyer. They will now think twice before taking steps as this incident will assure, that there may be backfiring.

On other occasions the wife will think twice before joining a job too, this practice anyway is in abundance even now. They want to work when in wedlock and that leads to disputes and divorce and then they want alimony. In such stages, they do work but they take up jobs with hard cash and no bank transactions. E.g tuition, counter sales at a shop, etc. the husband goes berserk in proving her earning status. It takes a good judge to conclude that the wife is capable of earning and the court has no responsibility to acknowledge the laziness of wife.

Heart says why there should be a money settlement in lieu. Will it heal the wound? And what is the reference table for that? All absurd. Why should court encourage such absurd and abstract laws of alimony and maintenance?

Wait, I am not through, Maintenance has to be given for the kids and that to by both parents. The savings in the name of the kids has to be contributed by both parties. Till they grow up. And it should be mandatory for both the spouses to work if they are divorcing, atleast that will keep some of the families intact. But in case of couple without child, it is ridiculous for the law to go on fighting and safeguarding for the good for nothing spouse.

My Heart also berates the spouse who demands. Nothing is appropriate if it is no win win in the right sense. It is okay, upto giving the litigation expenses to the spouse who is miserably unemployed, and against whom the case has been filed. Again everything is case to case. But overall maintenance to childless and healthy spouse is a law that encourages giving a free ticket to ride.

Can anyone tell me “why life sucks and why marriage sucks and why is it all about money?”
Jinesh Zaveri.


Blogger Rebel said...

Women organisation have become so very predictable. After this ruling that has failed to favour women must have had a serious setback to their long standing strategy. They would certainly cook up probabilities to safeguard women in whatever circumstances arise. They would say, "with this ruling a lot many men will try to escape from taking up the financial responsibility of the family and lay all the burden of earning money on the wife". I wonder why it is so hard to bear the pain inflicted by others then the pain that is been inflicted by you to others. Only a retarded kid will fail to understand that women want to have the best of both worlds; gaining recognition being better than men supported by biased media, gaining domination over the society of men supported by biased laws, and of course accusing men for anything. Women not only want to lay down her so-called rights but also want to dictate men's duties which only a fool will tolerate.

Sat Nov 19, 12:32:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


I really appreciate all the efforts that has been put in by all the members of this blog.

Can anyone help me?My brother has been livin in hell for past 8 yrs now...and we have no way out of this mess.My bhabhi is a lawyer and she has made our life hell :(

Mon Aug 14, 10:21:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Gosh!!! 8 Yrs?

By now your brother should have become a lawyer. I have seen cases where cases have made a lawyer out of a rickshaw driver husband.

And certain points to be noted.

Not all lawyers are winners:

- because if one wins other loses. Your bhabhi can lose too.

- but to win you will have to discuss the case with us and hence join us. click on the join link on my blog that is on the left side.

Cheers. And Ya no offence but Dowry takers please excuse us. Gung Ho.

Mon Aug 14, 10:44:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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