Court Cases: Running on a Treadmill

They would sigh, “I used to date her once upon a time every now and then, and now I just get the court dates, every now and then. After meeting a partner it seems life is all about dates dates and dates.” This is what most of the guys undergoing cases tell me. Offlate even girls too have been calling up and displaying the same mindsets stating “Date parr to abhi bhi jaate hain lekin paristhiti kuch alag hai” (Dates still happen in life but only the circumstances [ref to court dates] are different”

In Most of the cases, I guess, the couple are realizing it separately that the lawyer who is not affected at all, the so called friendly lawyer counsels and encourages to get in to litigation. In other words, their (boy and/or girl's) decide to outsource their fight to 2 Jockeys called lawyers, they are smart enough that they ride on clients money and manage a next date, slowly some get disillusioned and some never realise. I have had so many people calling me with a cheer immediately after a case is filed but now years later they come to terms.

Infact this situation is no different from "running on a treadmill" where you sweat, you actually run, you get exhausted, and it is leading you nowhere and you get a feeling that you are running but are actually on the same spot, years after years after years. I had mentioned this in my stree hatt article as well. And well you have to pay for getting exhausted, above all.

Finally the courts too agree off the records, that this is a major nuisance value, as fights and differences between 2 peoples personal intimate life is like debating on moot point that leads to no conclusions. Yes one sided short term benefits are there but if you miss out on the long term goals and agenda, then you are on risk of loosing out on time and only to look back and realize that you are sweating and running but are on the same spot. Leaving you mentally, physically, financially, morally and socially exhausted.

Infact a layman thinks courts are a sure and fast answer to the problem but little does one realize that it is an effective tool of harassing one another by virtue of delay with available loopholes [especially on men]. As the saying goes “Indecision is exhaustive, it is Futile.” And never a Justice Factory as intended and concluded otherwise.

I wanted to write about this since a long as I have been telling this to all during my contact sessions. Otherwise not a movie freak at all, last weekend while surfing channels of TV, I came across one of the most popular movie in bollywood and luckily with its most popular dialogue, I am talking about movie Damini, with sunny paaji talking about Taarikh pe taarikh. And that intense situation actually explained what goes on in the Indian courts and that to if it is a civil case to Gai Bhains Paani mein (hopeless situation).

[Ha Ha Ha] while having sex the gurus advise that the more you drag delay and prolong it is good, in this case the case gets dragged on and on and on and I would call is as a ‘courtroom orgasm’ but the ones who enjoy this orgasm are the lawyers and the one who get raped from all directions are their clients. This is the general observation, there are a few exceptions though.

The new mantra should be
“Divorce ho ya Shaadi,
Jab Miya Biwi Raazi,
To hi kuch karr paayega Kazi”

And with one sided laws
“Divorce ho ya shaadi,
Jab ladki hogi raazi,
To hi kuch karr paayega Kazi”

Exhausted,

Jinesh.