Alimony Kills Her Real Potential
Indian Girls are born here but made elsewhere because in India it is believed legally that women are dependent and inferior. Thought they had voting rights right from the beginning as compared to the western world yet the capable lot is swayed by the thinking of being under privileged inspite of a lady ruling the country for 17 yrs (Indira Gandhi) and now as a president (Pratibha Patil).
The courts award alimony and encourage their belief of being handicapped. But the fact is that today they are ruling the work place and are better office makers too. If these women were pampered to believe that they are weak they would have never made it big and ya some of them could because they were abroad away from the Indian victim mindset. Infact in India most Parents encourage the girl child to be on self but the indian courts and some groups do not.
Right now randomly I can think of some names of dynamic Indian women …
1) Kalpana Chawla (Astronaut)
2) Suneeta Williams (Astronaut)
3) Kiran Bedi (Needs no Introduction)
4) Arundhati Roy (Novelist)
5) Chanda Kochar (ICICI Chief)
6) Renuka Ramanathan (ICICI Venture Chief)
7) Kalpana Morparia (J P Morgan; Chief - India Operations)
8) Kiran Mazumdar Shaw (C MD – Biocon)
9) Mira Nair (Director)
10) Shabana Azmi (Actress)
11) Indra Nooyi (CEO and Chairperson Pepsi)
12) Ekta Kapoor (Creative Head - Balaji Telefilms)
Then why can’t any other indian woman who is estranged from her husband and also is ambitious to make it big in life and profession do it? Why are such women awarded alimony before they could rise up? By giving this facility we are killing the real potential in that lady.
They too have the potential, this could be best explained by the below given content (This data is slightly old showing indra nooyi as CFO)
The courts award alimony and encourage their belief of being handicapped. But the fact is that today they are ruling the work place and are better office makers too. If these women were pampered to believe that they are weak they would have never made it big and ya some of them could because they were abroad away from the Indian victim mindset. Infact in India most Parents encourage the girl child to be on self but the indian courts and some groups do not.
Right now randomly I can think of some names of dynamic Indian women …
1) Kalpana Chawla (Astronaut)
2) Suneeta Williams (Astronaut)
3) Kiran Bedi (Needs no Introduction)
4) Arundhati Roy (Novelist)
5) Chanda Kochar (ICICI Chief)
6) Renuka Ramanathan (ICICI Venture Chief)
7) Kalpana Morparia (J P Morgan; Chief - India Operations)
8) Kiran Mazumdar Shaw (C MD – Biocon)
9) Mira Nair (Director)
10) Shabana Azmi (Actress)
11) Indra Nooyi (CEO and Chairperson Pepsi)
12) Ekta Kapoor (Creative Head - Balaji Telefilms)
Then why can’t any other indian woman who is estranged from her husband and also is ambitious to make it big in life and profession do it? Why are such women awarded alimony before they could rise up? By giving this facility we are killing the real potential in that lady.
They too have the potential, this could be best explained by the below given content (This data is slightly old showing indra nooyi as CFO)
Indian Men V/s Indian Women
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Shah Rukh Khan – Actor
Earning Rs.247 per minute
Brij Mohan Lall Munjal – Chairman
Earning Rs.255 per minute
Amitabh Bachchan – Actor
Earning Rs.361 per minute
Mukesh Ambani – Chairman
Earning Rs.413 per minute
Sachin Tendulkar – Cricketer
Earning Rs. 1,163 per minute
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Indra Nooyi – CFO
Earning Rs. 2911 per minute
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Shah Rukh Khan – Actor
Earning Rs.247 per minute
Brij Mohan Lall Munjal – Chairman
Earning Rs.255 per minute
Amitabh Bachchan – Actor
Earning Rs.361 per minute
Mukesh Ambani – Chairman
Earning Rs.413 per minute
Sachin Tendulkar – Cricketer
Earning Rs. 1,163 per minute
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Indra Nooyi – CFO
Earning Rs. 2911 per minute
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A lady earns higher than a man in India.
So, do not award Alimony (SOWRY) to the Indian women, award her a job that could unleash her potential. Do not kill the potential of an Indian women by rendering her Abla or Helpless and dependent or weak just because she believes so or it is legal. Abort the practice of life time alimony for the new generation divorced women. Gift her the real freedom from her husband. Let the husband sponsor her 1 time basic qualification needs or find her a job. Let her not beg as a legal right. Let us not Kill her Real Potential.
Best New Year Wishes,
Jinesh Zaveri.
Best New Year Wishes,
Jinesh Zaveri.
Labels: 498a, Alimony, domestic violence, Dowry, Husbands, Indian Women, Sowry
posted by IndianHusbands | 4:27 PM
15 Comments:
No alimony to MBAs, Engineers, Doctors and other well qualified professional women who have had work experience. This must be the norm.
I would offer a slightly different opinion here. Let the amount of alimony be decided upfront at the time of marriage, and formalized into a legal document (Muslims do have a similar "meher" system). If the girl feels that she is sacrificing her career and earning potential, let her ask for higher alimony upfront. Critics would argue that this would destroy the social sanctity of marriage. However, it would be far better compared to the ugly divorce and 498A cases.
Kickin Hard... thanks for the views, well even non grads have good skills. they should be empowered with sewing machine, a beautician course, a jewelry designing course, a domestic day time call centre, a secretarial course, Insurance agencies, in worst case manning a telephone booth. that will serve the real purpose. opportunities are max other than just lazying around and begging in courts or family circles creating a scene.
Rohit... we may differ in solutions but more importantly we are agreeing that current situation is not correct. i would infact agree to your option too as one of the solution, coz looking at current exploitation of males under indian law, pre nups are going to be the in thing in india.
indeed, pre-nups should be legalized much in requirement in today's society, especially present women are neither fully liberal nor fully conservative and yet we have given women far liberty than man, in context of 498A legal aspect, which other fellow men have to earn as their right. in which country, simple verbal complaint forms basis of non bailable, non compoundable offense. all but in India, the same is possible.
By giving hefty alimony and maintenance Courts are encouraging family break ups. Inherently greedy women will definitely break the family in anticipation of luxury at someone elses cost and hassle free life.
I'm not against alimony but it should be based on the contribution of women to marital assests. I strongly advocate prenuptial agreements so that the decision power remains with the couple rather than leaving it to Judges who lacks wisdom.
No self-respecting woman will ask for alimony, at least if it was not the reason why she wanted to get into the marriage in the first place. Women need to get educated and self-reliant before marriage, so that a couple of things happen to them 1) knowing that the worlds a hard place to survive 2) good things have to earned, not had in a platter 3) dignity and division of labour.
Girls with dreams in eye, should not marry just to hope for a foothold to their dreams, they should stirve for it themselves and marry only for being with a soul partner, and not for any other materialistic or catalystic reason
Thanks Teaching Guru and Prassoon for your views. I could not agree less with you all.
Hey Cruiserdeep... your thoughts of wisdom are simply great. Impeccable!!!
Alimony is the biggest motivator to divorces. There can be only 7 instances where alimony can be granted and that too as a loan, under,
1) Physical handicap,
2) Social Handicap,
3) Mental Handicap,
4) Qualification disability,
5) Long Gap in career due to matrimony,
6) Special And Onerous responsibility like pregnancy and child birth and
7) Complete inability to work.
as explained in
http://wemen.us/articles/views/52-alimony-the-trojan-horse-of-matrimony.html
Save family foundation, strongly oppose such “dadagri of NCW” by Ms.Girija Vyas and request our Lawmaker to act immediately amend the CRPC 125 as under:
The word men/women to be replaced by the word Person and husband/wife to be replaced by the word Spouse.
A well-educated person should earn their live hood by their hard work instead of treating others as a Free ATM machine.
The word “living-in-adultiry” to be replaced by the word “living or lived in adultrity” during the relationship of both the partner, should not be entitled for any maintenance from each other, as it is a criminal breach of trust and cheating.
If any one filed the maintenance under crpc 125, the person should not be entitled to file or claim any other maintenance case under section24 or DV act.
The maximum Limit of Monthly Maintance to be fixed as per Common people's Living Standard only, instead of No limit.
This is called the present Justice system in India and equal right in India.
For a wife even adultrity also is not a crime (it is a rewarding option and free money earning business for the whole life), but for a man even an allegation of “Name-calling” is crime and not only the man, his mother/sister/age-old father also can be put behind the bar under 498A or DV act.
To get any legal right in live-in-realtionship a minimum time is required , otherwise the same will be misused by dishonest women just to extrote the money from men.
As Arnab said : "They are legalising the fact that your wife or girlfirend can sleep with 10 different men and still claim money from you as a Husband anbd also from the 10 different men as Live in relationship maintenance . Whole sale free income."
When women deserted to a man in live-in-realtionship , should the same to be termed as Social service by those great women? Why NCW do not demand that in such cases the women also have to pay the maintance to the man?
Indian men still sleeping and not able to understand the dirty game plan of those Radical orginasations for thier own personnel benifit ( divorced and live-in-realtionship women) misusing the provision of Indian Constituion to such a extant the Gender War is coming . Allready the Instituion of Marrage had been killed, harmoney at work place disturbed now the time to destory your own basic right to live and liberty also.
Indian Men just a Free ATM machine nothing else!!!!
We immediate demand to Indian Goverment for formation of "Men well fare ministry" to stop such dadagri of NCW and stop treating the Men as Free ATM Machine and immediately sack the present NCW chair person , who is misusing her power to just full fill her own personnle benifit.
Hey dada,
nice to see you back on my blog.
this blog is missing you so much.
a thoghtful piece......
Absolutely Unconditional NO to Alimony. No Ongoing Financial
support of any kind whatsoever.
If she id dependent, then stay
put as one. If she is independent
then PROVE IT FULLY.
If she does not live with me, she is not to be my responsibility.
Like that old Hindi movie song
Chalo ek baar phir se ajnabi baan jaye ham dono ...
Na main tumse koi ummeed rakhoon dilnavaazi ki
Na tum meri taraf dekho galat andaaz nazaron se
Na mere dil ki dhadkan ladkhadaaye meri baaton mein
Na zaahir ho tumhaari kashm-kash ka raaz nazaron se
Tumhen bhi koi uljhan rokti hai peshkadmi se
Mujhe bhi log kehte hain, k yeh jalve paraaye hain
Mere hamraah bhi rusvaaiyaan hain mere maazi ki
Tumhaare saath bhi guzri hui raaton k saaye hain
Taarruf rog ho jaaye to usko bhoolnaa behtar
Taalluk bojh ban jaaye to usko todnaa acha
Woh afsaana jise anjaam tak laana na ho mumkin
Usey ek khoobsoorat mod dekar chhodna acha
a very intelligent piece I must say. A prenup agreement is india would be very helpful to avoid the confusion and the mess later on - Sharath Pai
You are quite confused about alimony.If the women is earning well (euqal to 30% of the men's salary) she gets no alimony and the alimony is limited to 30% of teh combined income.This has bee enforced as majority of the women in india are either houswwives or choose to give up their careers after marriafe or having kids.Yes there are a few women earning well like ms Nooyi, but the law caters to majority.This is to dissade men who think they can walk away from a mareriage as and when they feel like.After bedding a woman and having children onoe canot just walk out of a marriage.These hindrances make a man and his family think 10 times before they take such a step and has empowered women.I know men who do not have aextra marital affairs or keep them in a limit due to such laws.
@Anubha,
Your thoughts are completely conservative. Women do not do any service to men for which they should be paid, once they choose not to stay with the man.
Alimony has empowered women to break marriages. If you call that empowerment, your call. If a woman chooses to leave job for marriage, big deal? The man toils and gives her food.
This mindset of yours is completely anti-male and anything that is anti-male is anti-social. Marriage is not a business opportunity.
Remember it.
"This is to dissade men who think they can walk away from a mareriage as and when they feel like"
Why can't a man have a choice to break free from a bad marriage without costs? You talk of empowerment of women. what about men? You are anti-male and gender biased. Why should a man be either forced to put up with a woman he is not happy with or imposed with heave financial punishment (read penalty).
When a woman gets money for crying, how can one believe the tears are real?
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