Men Gender Badnaam
13 November 2006, Washington Times Publishes an article that brings more ignominy, adding insult to the injury of Indian husbands. It misinterpreted that 70% of Indian women were subject to Domestic Violence and marital rape. I was unaware of this SIF alert mail as my internet phone lines were dead since a week.
Rick B, a radio host of CBC-1, Vancouver, was the first one to inform me (indirectly by asking me a question on a live broadcast). 14th November 2006, I get a call from Radio CBC Canada, expressing their interest to take my telephonic interview live on radio regarding the indian domestic violence act 2005, with a lead time of 15 minutes.
It seems this misleading article shook all those who read, and the concern was felt in the 2nd question asked to me. And that was about this claim of 70%. Rick, according to me, a very impressive radio host was right in questioning me; after all it was published in Washington Times and stated that it was a UN population fund report in 2005. My counter question was about the source through which this was asked. Further I shared the plight of representatives of husband who face the identity crises in statistics due to absence of mechanism for male in getting the abuse of wife recorded as at the most NCO is recorded and that does not reflect in the national statistics. Slowly, now public opinion on this is changing as they realize this fact going unnoticed till date. (I will be soon uploading the audio interview, once I learn how to blog it).
Meanwhile, SIF did not sit quietly as investigations were required. David Usher of RADAR represented this concern with actual facts asking explanation of the sources that gave this figure questioning Brinda Karat and some copy cat journos. 29th November 2006 Washington Times announces the correction thus “saving Indian families” from being “misbranded.”
Before the correction, I was also contacted by Gujarati Weekly Abhiyaan, who too vehemently represented the misleading fact while interviewing me on the phone. But on telling them they realized about the absence of mechanism of complaints, which they presented with conviction later. Since it was a telephonic interview they were unable to get the figures right and my figures were misquoted. I was contacted just some hours before the submission of the story for review and publishing, so a personal meeting was not possible.
Abhiyaan reported that approx 5700 cases of 498a witnessed conviction in 2004 but at the same time misprinted that nearly half of them were reported false. (THE FACT: 4 times more are already reported false, the acquittal ratio is 61% and the rest are in the process. (Source: RTI Act) and trends will reflect of over all 2% conviction rate as per the averages seen over the years). The married M/F suicide data below was also misquoted as "45:37" instead of 45:25.
Anyway the actual figures are as per the statistics: (Source: National Bureau of Crime)
On every 100 suicides we have 63:37 Male : Female ratio.
On every 100 Male suicides we have 45 males who are married.
On every 100 female suicides we have 25 females who are married.
He is definitely tagged as a wife-beater, Nobody notices that he was quite for so many days till the wife worked consistently so hard to provoke him by selective sulking, verbal abuse, emotional and mental abuse and provoke on his manhood etc (this study till date is ignored). All said and done with some tears the lady enjoys the luck of Matarazzi and get the world cup for her team (sadly, some even call it no pain no gain, and even blood sweat tears and pain to gain) . Bottom line: the winner takes it all and the loser gets it none. But, 1 sec. I have all my empathies for the real victim women and the act of hitting is not justified in any case. Here I am discussing a bird view of what happens.)