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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Monday, January 01, 2007

Thank You Ponds (HLL) and O&M

My Parents were discussing today, that they will now use HLL products after a one month ban in my house. Because on 27th Nov 2006 after meeting with HLL team, I had decided to throw all the HLL products from my house. And my mom and dad already were taking a stock of what all things were to be thrown out, reminiscing how Dadaji and Baa during pre-independence period did. My meeting with the HLL at the Advertising Standard Council of India did not go smooth but I think they did realise the danger to the society in promoting the ad.

SIF was ready to file a complaint to stop the Ponds ad by HLL that promoted the controversial Domestic Violence Act in a surrogate way that even Supreme Court has called clumsily drafted . I was about to write this in SIF but did not react immediately. But something told me that the ads would stop, though the communication in meeting was of 2 years campaign later max upto 1st week of Jan 2007. But in retrospect the effect was immediate.

So I decided to wait and watch for the ad or more reports from anyone anywhere. SIF Vanarsena was already deputed for this Job from that day. But repeatedly I was told by deputes “Uncle where is the Ad these days, shayad vapas le li?”. And then on 28th Dec 2006,
DNA confirmed the news. But what mattered was the purpose of SIF, which was served, as this ad otherwise carried a risk of “Kan Bharnewali Saheli” (a she friend provoking another to provoke to workout such a situation) instead of a guide to the real Victim Women as intended.

Though this was a genuine attempt of HLL-O&M in selling by promoting awareness as they were focused on the victimized women but they missed out on realizing the side effect of misuse as highlighted by SIF. But I would say that the beauty of statistics represented by Women Empowerment Organisation have misled and claimed many victims to it, one of them is the corporate sector who generously donates for the cause without even contemplating or questioning the statistics. HLL was one of them as they too realized it. Just like
Nobel invented dynamite with good intentions but it is largely misused.

Next point presented was the one that no one has been able to answer (Not even the Human Rights Commission) as to why there is no provision for the males to register complaints based on truth if against females and wife. Unlike the wife who has provisions, but is still supported by ever cribbing mahila sansthas who talk about rights but not the responsibilities. Leaving poorly drafted laws, which act as fatal VIRUS (DV Act and 498a) in the system.

HLL and O&M did give me a fair chance to talk to being with. They were surprised with the statistical argument. This was just 2 days before the
Washington times correction else it would have been an easier task for both of us. They did work pretty hard for this poorly researched campaign with good intentions as I was told that they had signed an MoU with UNIFEM who would use the 2 rupees donation by ponds on every pack for counseling before using the law. This was actually very utopian and impressive but bookish in front of what has been prevailing since 1983 with 2% conviction rate in 498a.

But SIF argued and they were left thinking, when doubts were raised on a situation where if a girl is motivated by this ad planning a misuse in silligudi (where as on date, there is no judge for past 3 years in the matrimonial court) what would she do? Would she go to the UNIFEM? No!!! Would she go to the dowry prohibition officer or Protection officer (now what is that) ah if the case is genuine she may look out for this fictitious character that exists in the law books. Well otherwise she would go to the police.

And even the police have agreed that once they intervene even for good, the matter is never resolved in reconciliation but has always landed up in divorce, on taking complaint they have called themselves helpless in front of Women Organisation who threaten a complain against them affecting their Job. so overall it would do more harm than good to the society. I think all this must have stuck them the most. (there were more discussions, debates and exchages of thoughts but I am responding to the contents of article that has come in DNA)

They did their job of justification and I did my job of preventing misuse. They sure realized what they missed out.
Henpecked-Handcuffed, Nobel, Zidane has been a great examples that explains the plight of similar kind that traps the Indian Husband and misuse of laws. Even HLL and O&M realized. They also took a note of Domestic Harmony Ad instead as suggested by SIF. We parted peacefully but on a polite disagreement as I walked out of the room. With an option of filing a complaint with ASCI open. But the ads never went on air since that day. They also said that we would take care of this aspect too henceforth which was relieving.

I am quite thankful to Katyayani to point this news out, and Rakesh to initiate the whole process of meeting with the ASCI. Special acknowledgements to Mr Guilbert Pariera Secretary with ASCI who did a wonderful job of a fair mediation. And definitely HLL and O&M has set up a good precedent by not pretending sleep and following my favorite words of Mahatma...

“A devotee of truth may not do anything in deference to convention. He must always hold himself open to correction, and whenever he discovers himself to be wrong he must confess it all costs and atone for it.”

I very Humbly Thank YOU, Ponds (HLL) and O&M,

My Googly Woogly Woosh to HLL, O&M and ASCI,

Thank You God for giving us this strength,

Jinesh Zaveri.
Happy New Year to all of you.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kudos to HLL and ogilivy and sif . My dear friend mahesh chauhan who works for O & M will no longer face the flak from me

Tue Jan 02, 08:58:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous paritrana said...

These are those drops from the Ocean which will finally cleanse the whole nation in congregation.

"Women empowerment" kinda of wrong message by women groups already damaged society by blindly incorporating Foreign radicals agenda.

Still Indian women groups are by Indian blood, they should start realizing about keeping our family system and social structure intact. These women groups MUST distance(even sacrificing funds) themselves from these foreign radical groups whose interest very different from what Indian families need.

Also Women groups MUST distance those women who alreadys transformed as a part and parcel of foreign radical women groups. It is practical and they exist. Govt and Media and bureacracu MUST do their part to identify (usually these women are in political roles/depts) such women and slowly/gradually move them off the VALUABLE positions to just SAVE INDIAN FAMILY.

Tue Jan 02, 11:15:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Appreciate the HLL and Pond's Management for giving a chance to provide our View Points and ovation to them for the decision to remove the ad from circulation after understanding the facts.


Wed Jan 03, 07:28:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This was a tremendous effort Jinesh!! Keep it up!

Infact your efforts have prevented many women from falling prey to the temptation of misuse. It was good to have nipped it in the bud. It has also helped in decreasing the unnecessary future load on our judicial system. There are some issues which should be amicably sorted out within the family, without resorting to any legal measures. Though this is not to say that the genuinely aggrieved ones should not be lodging formal complaints. They should, but only if warranted, looking at the gravity of such occurrences.

Tolerance, Patience and Understanding are rare traits now. And such unnecessary propaganda through a FMCG company would have done hardly anything to strengthen such virtues in Indians. I say Indians because ultimately everyone gets affected through DV, be it women or men.

This advertising campaign was nothing but an attempt to colour the already polluted mindsets of our population. It was an attempt by those fanatic women's organisations to gain further leverage and undue advantage by projecting women as the down-trodden part of our Indian society. And what gains were to be realised?? More support, more voices, more visibility, more funding!! It clearly serves their hidden agenda.

I wonder why such responsible organisations like HLL do not make an attempt to project family and elders as the strength of our Indian race?? Why don't they make campaigns which highlight Mutual Respect, Understanding, Tolerance, Patience as required virtues in today's populace?? Why can't such campaigns be a positive reflection of our society?? Why do they always project the negative aspects?? This is not to say that negativity does not exist, but then it also does not mean that positivity does not exist!!

Indian society and Indian families are still in existence. All because of those generations which have imbibed these virtues in their true element. The problem lies in one's ability to imbibe. Parents, elders, teachers, society, everyone has a social responsibility in this domain.

I would suggest you and Rakesh, and SIF as an organisation, should make an attempt to feed new ideas to Advertising Agencies and Corporates. It is important that they look at such issues from a balanced perspective rather than get lured by the mere enormity of them.

Good going!

Wed Jan 03, 09:38:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Swarup said...

Well done guys and thanks to Ponds authority also to respect our view and stop airing the Advertisement.

If Ponds need , we can help them out with a powerfull advertisement to Promote the Domestic Harmony in the relationship.
Do not forget , a lot of SIF volenters are product of IIM,IIT also and serving all over the world.

Wed Jan 03, 11:00:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Rebel said...

None can imagine the frustration and anger in minds of UNIFEM. They must be on melting point to see their conspiracy in destroying Indian family by propagating draconian such as Domestic Violence Law has failed.

They must be mummbling, "Who is this SIF? How come such a small group of people could jeopardize their whole deception?" The fact is that numbers don't count when you are fighting for truth and justice. Even a small group of people can bring down a whole nation of dictatorship (India under Sonia's autocracy).

This isn't a battle between men and women. It is a battle between 'right' and 'wrong'. In this case, 'right'(SIF) was victorious because there were some good people in HLL who didn't fail to differentiate between 'right' and 'wrong' unlike the Government.

UNIFEM must realise from this failure that how much ever they try to defeat the 'right', they will always fail, and one day their whole existence will be finished if they continue to be on the 'wrong' side.

Cheers to Jinesh.

Wed Jan 03, 11:32:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Thanks Anon, Paritrana, Malarvannan, Katyayani, Swarup and Rebel...

This is one the best moments out of many, that SIF has had. Like we say "So Far So Good" and we have a long way to go.

But with this great team, it is fun to sustain in this struggle.

Thank You all.

Wed Jan 03, 09:08:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Sam said...

thanks for listening to our request. its sad that Goverment of India and our politicians has no time to uncover this multimillion dollar scam in India where wife's and inlaws extract money by filing false 498a in the court. 98% cases are proved to be false as they dont want husbands parents, relatives ....

Renuka was law for your daughters??
as you dont have son to understand how husbands especially techies are harrased, the people who contribute major to the indian economy...

- Sam

Thu Jan 04, 04:33:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wonderful job!!! Congrats..

Keep up the good work, with your efforts and from fellow satyagrahi's we will win the war which is raged against us so unfairly.


Sun Jan 07, 09:25:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wonderful job!!! Congrats..

Keep up the good work, with your efforts and from fellow satyagrahi's we will win the war which is raged against us so unfairly.


Sun Jan 07, 09:26:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous SNEHA said...

uncle I am really very proud of u. THIS act of yours really motivates me to do something to improve the condition of the males in the society. This also shows in todays world too we can walk on principles of GANHIJI. " sach mein bande mein tha dam vande matram "
I also want two wish all the members of the sif

Thu Jan 11, 10:08:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Thanks Sam, Vinit,

It was a pleasure to represent SIF and this has been one of the best moments that I have had from many coz they accepted our Ideas of Domestic Harmony.

@Sneha, Thanks, I am sure that you would keep the flag of SIF Vanar Sena Flying High.

Sun Jan 14, 02:45:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Humanist said...

SIF is one of the rarest NGOs that is truly doing service to humanity.

visit www.siftimes.com

Thu Nov 15, 10:33:00 AM GMT+5:30  

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