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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Ab kahan bell bajaou?

Which door do we Knock?: Indian Husbands

When the bell bajao campaign hit the screens most of the males who had come for counseling informed me that they too knocked the door of the neighbors when their wives harassed them. In some cases Hubby and his parents were rescued by neighbors from a violent and abusive
Surpanakha disguised as Chandi / Sita who would only respect her illogical stubbornness. But in courts these innocents Sr Citizens and their family are treated as criminals and the legal terrorists are funded by state and by her perpetual ATM hubby.

Still some husbands ignorantly trust courts as a recourse
(actually so called) for relief till they realize that even courts are helpless. Husbands do a Bell Bajao at the courts in other words they knock the doors of courts hoping (under the false impression) that courts can grant divorce to Indian Husbands easily in India. Alas, Even Judges believe that Divorce by male is anti traditional and the same decision by female is pro modern and it reflects in the hearings and then in judgements.

And worst would be when his fate meets the bench of Katjuji and Vermaji. This bench defied the 5th habit of Stephan Covey of “Seek first to understand and then being understood” and that is ‘if I can see through my specs your vision numbers are irrelevant even you should be able and should see only through my specs.' The bench proved it by saying "Hum sab bhogi hai (we are all sufferers)." And also “The bench further said that a husband has to accept the suggestion of a wife irrespective of the fact whether it is sensible or not.” "If your wife asks you to put your face that side, put it that side. If she says, put it this side, then put it this side. Otherwise you will face trouble. (Are they suggesting legal terrorism?) Link to this news
I once again mention that the spouse on receiving end is ready to barter anything for peace and freedom instead of putting conditions, be it man (mostly) or woman (women even with a legal advantage wants to get rid, if she is really abused). Almost all harassed guys have a mindset for their other halves and that is “What will you take to help me get rid of you?” Some fight for the whole life and reach the Supreme Court.

One such case reached SC after a long battle of anticipating freedom from the clutches of an abusive wife who has abused and charged the husband to be in all sorts of crimes. The retired Air Force officer (husband) offered Rs. 10,00,000 (Rupees One Million) to his wife as a one time settlement of the dispute in the “eyes” of the court. To which the ostensibly biased court advised the Jew to obey the domestic and legal Hitler. Another Henpecked approach by the court who arguably ignored the charges by the husband and the cruelty on him. This is not for the first time that the courts are suggesting hubbies to be henpecked or handcuffed. Some days back another 17 yr old case was featured in TOI against the husband who wanted a legal divorce but SC ordered him to take back his wife inspite of all the false charges against him and the pain of lifetime.

Yaar, these are hearings / judgements, they may or may not affect other hearings, they may or may not dictate a precedent, but just imagine series of cases where a husband wants to stay away from an abusive spouse who thinks abusing as her moral right. He is ready to pay her for the nuisance value and mental peace after almost a battle of decade and a half is ordered to compromise beyond his comfort. Just because the wife has a fail safe 498a/DV/Alimony misuse and hubby has no shield.

Where would the husbands go and knock the door???? Who would listen to them?
Bell Bajao!!!! Par kahan? Where?

Shayad Mandir Mein (May be in Temple) Hey Ishwar are you listening?

Are koi hai? (Is anyone there?)
Knock Knock, Ring Ring,

Jinesh Zaveri.

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Blogger Crusader said...

Only 2 words for the article,


Wed Jun 03, 11:58:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Indian men are considered to be second class citizens. We will need a French Revolution or a chinese Cultural Revolution to change this attitude - prassoon

Thu Jun 04, 12:16:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Thanks Crusader.

Prassoon you are absolutely right and we will have to do that. we have made a difference and still there is a long way to go.

if not us then who and if not now then when?

Thu Jun 04, 12:31:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Kris said...

Jinesh -
Awesome expose of the sad state of our judiciary. These senile patriarchs placed in positions of power by providence do not hesitate to screw up the lives of us lesser mortals without conscience or compunctions. Who says pussy politics or any other politics has no place in judiciary? In principle Yes, in practice Katzu and Pasayat.

Thu Jun 04, 02:33:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Kris said...

Jinesh -
Awesome expose of the sad state of our judiciary. These senile patriarchs placed in positions of power by providence do not hesitate to screw up the lives of us lesser mortals without conscience or compunctions. Who says pussy politics or any other politics has no place in judiciary? In principle Yes, in practice Katzu and Pasayat.

Thu Jun 04, 02:35:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Most important point here is that SC is not only the highest but last court of the land. Therefore their comment must be well thought of as it has greater impact on the society

~ Sukant

Thu Jun 04, 11:23:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Hemal,

I was googling on web and saw your post. i am desperately looking for some help against misuse of 498A.

In case you have any clues, please let me know. Would like to get in touch with you. Currently am going through horrible social defamation and legal proceedings instigated by my wife and in-laws.

Fri Jun 05, 10:52:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Hi Dear,

I am not sure who is Hemal.

Secondly you haven't introduced yourself.

Thirdly you haven't given your contact details how do i contact you?

i hope you have got the link of joining our mailing group on this blog under JOIN US Section on the left column of the main page.

hope you provide us your contact details this will help us help you.

Fri Jun 05, 03:49:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Sammelankavi said...

Hi Jinesh

Good article.

I have a hunch that last post to which you replied was from guy
whose name is Hemal and for obvious reasons, he is out of his mind ....

Sat Jun 06, 01:18:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Jinesh,
greeting from Switzerland now! I told you some time back we would move from Germany.

It saddens me again and again to read what is happening in India. It is truely shocking and appaling. It's a mystery to me that women are morally capable of doing this and it shames and humbles me, being an Indian woman myself.


Sun Jun 21, 03:34:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Sandesh said...

well said. Are you from Mumbai SIFF ?
You are doing a really great job.

evil498a.blogspot.com (Marathi blog)

Tue Jun 30, 10:05:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

hi sandesh,

thanks for visiting my blog.

your blog is a good initiative. i tried but could not leave comment though.

but its a great effort. keep it up.

Fri Jul 03, 03:12:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous NRI Husband said...

Interesting blog post. Hard to say where Indian Husbands can really knock!

Sat Oct 17, 09:25:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger marry said...

Blogs are so informative where we get lots of information on any topic. Nice job keep it up!!

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Mon Dec 14, 04:54:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Arpit Doshi said...

My friend, even Santa (well-wisher of this world) also comes only once a year during Christmas when we keep ringing bells for entire year. Out here we are expecting 545self-centric and self-obsessed people to hear our bells, we will have to keep ringing bells for longer and longer and longer........but it will be heard one day :)

Sat Jan 02, 11:50:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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