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IPC Section 498-A: Misuse

Dedicated to the Victimised Indian Families, Who are falsely threatened & Blackmailed by the Indian Daughters-In-Law & her family members, and those Victimised families who are already falsely charged under the Section 498A. Its all about False charges of Dowry Law, Domestic Violence, Alimony, Marriage and Divorce. NOTE: All articles are my personal copyright. They may be republished if the source is acknowledged and a link provided to this site. This is not an Anti-Women Blog. Read Disclaimer.

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Women go to the police with a complaint (may be false), but the system provides to record that as a criminal complaint and that data adds in to the National Statistics of Crime Against Women. When male goes with a genuine complaint the police at max can record a Non Cognizable offence against the women. That will never reflect in the statistics. Then how will one guage crime against men? Every 100 Suicides in India have 63 Males and 37 Females. Every 100 male suicides have 45 married males, and every 100 women suicides have 25 married Women. Married women suicides have default arrests of the inlaws under presumed dowry death. Married men suicides entitle wife for a 50% share in property. What kind of equality is this? I thank you for visiting my blog, Please visit again. And I welcome you to participate on my Blog. [indianhusbands (at-the-rate) yahoo (dot) com]. Click here for Main Page

Sunday, February 12, 2006

Yeh Duniya Agar Mil bhi Jaaye to Kya Hai?

A few days a go I got a SMS from my friend that had the following message “Sometimes Small things really matter in Life than big ones… See, You can sit on a mountain but not on a pin” I Smiled but suddenly my thought process started that headed me to blog this article of mine.

The correlation in my mind went like this. Ego is as big as a mountain and it just takes ones conscience (no matter how small) to prick and puncture it just like a pin. “Conscience” that is the word and one set of people have already made a lot of fun of this word and also whenever I have talked about it. One of the early encounters of mockery with is term was when I talked about issues like virginity and celibacy; Pre Marital Sex and Extra Marital Sex etc.

Well that reminds me of
(a) The polls that Okayed Pre Marital Sex.
(b) It reminded me of the fact that women too have the right to earn their own livelihood and should be treated equal to men.

Of the two points I totally disagree the former point for either of the gender, but my disagreeing won’t change the fact made in former point, that majority favors.
And I absolutely agree the later point as far as earning opportunity to the women is considered; even Gandhiji favored that same. Not to mix up my reservations on interdependence over independence.

For better understanding on the title of this article, let us link these facts now with divorcing couple (especially childless) within hardly 1yr of marriage. [In my view, Alimony is justified for those cases i) where the wife has been a house wife through out where the life of marriage was of a very long period and (ii) there are kids etc or both the cases and in such cases if the wife is working then she too should contribute for child maintainance]

No one divorces for pleasure. Plus divorce is legal and not a taboo anymorel. It also gives an option under section 13-b where the couple did not live as human beings atleast can part as friends.

But now comes this “tradition” that the non-traditional girl (who generally defies any clichés and prototypes) would never fail to follow, this time the tradition is of “alimony(e)y” which for a change she would religiously demand. This point is based on such cases with such double standards. [Before I begin on that, I would reiterate my biggest argument and that is both in the couple or who Girls do not want to live in Interdependence, land up in a dispute. Even those girls who are not ready to compromise with values that are a hurdle to modern practices and cheap pleasures that are unhindu, are still protected by the hindu law. And my old question of this case with separate identity is still unanswered that is “How Hindu was that Marriage?”]

Now the ideal settlement should be whatever belongs to whichever party should be returned justly. But the reality is something else.

If the girl is earning, then alimony demand may be contested but that itself is a debate. Coz if one dares to debate, there comes a blind law called Section 498A. So the blackmail pressure by default is on the Husband.

But now comes the question… “If having Pre-marital Sex is ok, let me accept that (only for the sake of discussion) and ask…


That when the Girl earns or is capable of earning by virtue of qualification and experience – Accepted, then why is alimony demanded for?


The settlement includes streedhan (so called and actual), expenses incurred by the girls side during wedding, fees for her lawyer, etc etc when everything is intended to settle, then why a maintenance sum above all these?


With the option of lumpsum or ‘repaying’ (the term is explained in the next paragraph) in monthly format where the divorce is not given but the money definitely is, the best convenient option for the divorcing bride is chosen. It is all so confusing to even express with so many combinations.

"Or to talk straight in other words (for certain cases) [and keeping in mind the empowerment and pre marital and extra marital sex acceptance] is it the maintenance (the settlement) after all a commercialization of Sexual Relations that is being charged to the Husband? (that he repays)"


Where exactly are we heading? Will the conscience ever prick. They cause fear and then make the most out of it.

With such darkness and sword of uncertainty hanging, one would definitely feel “Yeh Duniya Agar Mil Bhi Jaaye to Kya Hai?”

Clueless,

Jinesh Zaveri.

15 Comments:

Anonymous Miten Shah said...

I have seen ur blog and ur other articles. It is really heartening that u r fighting so hard against the injustice.

Make the wrongdeors run for their money and never ever give up.

-- Miten Shah

Mon Feb 13, 09:31:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi
Seems like alimony payments are bothering you no end.
If my assumption is right doyou pay alimony and is it for lifetime?
Your pain and dispair are terribly evident from the message above.
Regards

Fri Feb 17, 05:29:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

hi welcome back.

This article reflects not just one mans plight but everyone's and since their childhood, men are burdened as superior brand, hence they are not conditioned to even question or even think about this.

They are just supposed to accept it.

Fri Feb 17, 08:55:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

and ya as regards to your assumption, I would not comment on that, you may write to me and disclose your identity first.

Kindest Regards.

Fri Feb 17, 09:14:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi
sure.
maybe i will write to you as I know too that I cant discuss this on the blog!
Since the 'alimony' issue is so evident, I was wondering therfore I asked!!!
My relative too had to face this situation a couple of years back and he overcame it once and for all with meticulous planning.
Regards
ps: This should not infer that I am against alimony or maintenance or pro.

Fri Feb 17, 09:23:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello Jinesh
Its really a good attempt to disclose the agony of men. Myself is on the same boat. Before marrige I too used to believe in "not to sleep with any girl without the bedlock bcos i wantd to be virgin". But what I got in return. A wife having premarital sex with her ex for long time. I was under depression for a long time period. despite that I kept and try to make her stand on her on feet.But in return of all this I along with my family memeber were framed in false 498a case by my wife(ex) and her family member. was it a dowery case. was she tourtored or it was me who was mentally tourtorched and for a long could not recover from dipression
Still when I think about marrige, its give me a hoorible thoughs.

Vinay Kumar

Fri Feb 17, 12:03:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Dear Friend,

You are welcome to write to me personally on indianhusbands @ yahoo . com

Fri Feb 17, 11:04:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

Dear Vinay Kumar,

I hope you have joined saveindianfamily; if no then join by clicking the 1st link in join section of my blog. else write to me personally indianhusbands @ yahoo . com

awaiting communication from you.

Fri Feb 17, 11:08:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi
I am apprehensive to write to you in the email mentioned above because I think (am sure) thats the group(saveindianfamily & indianhusbands) you belong to or maybe a group email id altogether. And I dont want to be part of a group.

Is that email ID a group email or your sole email?
Regards

Sat Feb 18, 01:32:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

"indianhusbands @ yahoo .com" is very much my personal mail ID. :-D so go ahead and write to me.

(any mail with extention @ yahoogroups is a group mail. and you cannot write to a group mail unless you are member of that group so do not worry. any extention with only yahoo . com has to be a personal mail id so write to me on that)

the name of our group/movement is "saveindianfamily" where as my blog/mail ID and Pen name is indianhusbands.

so feel free and write as it would be confidential. Awaiting.

Kind Regards.

Sat Feb 18, 07:44:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jinesh,
I have joined saveindianfamily long back after I came to know( If known earlier i could safegurd myself and my family members against 498a). Now I am visiting this group daily and learning a lot.
I too is trying to give impetus to this movement at my place(Jaipur but not fininf ne one over here). But now after meeting to so many people in SIF, I am really confident to fight agaist this battle.

Vinay

Sat Feb 18, 04:04:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

There are people in jaipur I know write to me.

Since I do not have your email ID

Sat Feb 18, 06:36:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sent you mail at indianhusbands @ yahoo .com" a couple of days back!

Thu Feb 23, 07:20:00 AM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Mumbai Hubby said...

When a husband or his family members ask the money it is treated as Dowry and there are law against it. But what will u term for the money that that is demanded by the wife /her parents for not dancing to her tune which may also include physical and mental torture to your parents. More strange part is that our Govt.is supporting that and out NCW is provking and motivating the females to use this legal gundaism (Sec. 498). Is there justice in this country

Mumbai Hubby

Thu Feb 23, 02:11:00 PM GMT+5:30  
Blogger Bharati said...

SOWRY

Fri Feb 24, 05:33:00 PM GMT+5:30  

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