Section 498A-Indian Men’s attitude towards it
I always perceived myself as justice seeker for the victims with a definite soft corner for the women. I would want to share something with all of you and would urge you to tell this to all our family members and friends. Feel free to circulate this article and create awareness.
This may sound no big deal to a 3rd person. But I am frustrated when I write this and I am writing it to you all what I felt at that moment. According to me I have found one more reason and that is the attitude of men behind all this.
I ran into an old colleague of mine in the Borivali-Churchgate Fast Local at Borivali. In the 1 Hr Run he updated proudly of his new corporate avatar. He said he is working with a leading software firm as a regional network administrator. And said that his office was very near to mine, he was glad to learn that we were both were heading for churchgate and to our offices.
He shared his ideas of to-be or not to be in my present organization where he once worked, and also told me how I too could switch over to brand that he works for. He sincerely appreciated my potential to work and said I am under rated where I am. I was lured and tempted by the facility that he was talking of. Soon he assured me that he will put me on to the contact of that person who could help me switch over as I, according to him sincerely deserved a package that his company offers.
Suddenly as usual the questions of my marital status came in to picture. He was last aware that then I was so called happily married with a lady that made an Ideal match and we were identified as an ideal couple. “Aur…. Bhabhiji kaisi hai?” he asked (he was asking me about my wife). And I slowly unfolded the facts. I felt I should share it with him as he was once very close to me and we genuinely trusted and appreciated each other.
From Dadar till Bombay Central he came across various stages of counseling me, assuring me, Opinionated himself about what I am, and predicted that things will be fine either way. I told him further as to what she did to my parents (also asked them to leave the house) and then the lies with me and my family. His eyes got wider and I spoke about the gyan that she gave me about section 498A etc as to how troubled I would be if I do not Fulfill her demands.... He nodded in unison with me or atleast pretended to do so.
We arrived at Churchgate and we got up. It was understood that we were on our way to the office with in the same vicinity. And to my surprise, Instead of continuing to head with me to the office, he suddenly told me with a change in his tone “Chalo I have to rush, see you some other time.” Suddenly his signals of God Fatherly image to give me a break in his organization also diminished.
I least expected him to abruptly abscond away from me like this. I felt his behaviour towards me was similar to what an AIDS or Leprosy victim would receive from a not so compassionate guy. I am sure his reaction to an AIDS or Leprosy patient would have been just like that. And at that moment this is what frustrated me. Ideally he should have not absconded the way he did.
Honestly we men are responsible for our attitude. And after being bitten when we ask, Are men taken for granted? The answer is a Harsh “Yes” “Because Men themselves have taken their concern for rights and other things for granted”
Wake up!!! Change your attitude fellow Indian Men. 498A and Domestic Violence bill is equally applicable to all of you. Your parents, your siblings and any other relatives are vulnerable by it.
Change! Change! Change! Inquilab Zindabad.