Michchami Dukkadam

It is 3rd samvatsari (of Paryushan) since we mutually parted. I could not wait for this day to get over to wish you, Coz since we parted, I have been guessing regarding your where abouts, I hope you are fine and reading this...

My Dear "Once-more-than-a-Friend",

I break all my karmic chords with you for good,
I would not be happy to see you in trouble,
I would not be troubled to see you happy,
I attended your all complaints about me through out our association,
Till I agreed to relieve you from me, following all your complaints,
What happened next?

Some damages cannot be undone but forgiven for good,
Some associations cannot be reworked but forgotten for good,
Let us not be obstacles to each other if not strengths,
I trust we have been better off without each other than being together,
We need not curse each other to justify our moves,
Let us break the old trend, Let us part as friends.

We feel, we are warriors in our battle fields, but little do we realise,
that there are people who suffer for us more than us,
Let us face it, It just did not work out, and we are loosing out on time,
Where ever you are, I wish you all the best,
I humbly bow down to your pure soul,
Michhamidukkadam to you and all those with you.

All the best. We both need to move on in life. I always wish(ed) you to be Happy (I mean it).

Once Yours-More-Than-a-Friend,

Jinesh... (as addressed by you)

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Prayer from the Pratikaman...

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"KHAMEMI SAVVE JIVE,
SAVVE JIVA KHAMANTU ME
METTI ME SAVVE BHUYESU,
VERAM MAJAHAM N KENAI"

"I forgive (from the bottom of my heart without any reservation) all living beings (who may have caused me any pain and suffering either in this life or previous lives), and I beg (again from the bottom of my heart without any reservation) for the forgiveness from all living beings (no matter how small or big to whom I may have caused pain and suffering in this life or previous lives, knowingly or unknowingly, mentally, verbally or physically, or if I have asked or encouraged someone else to carry out such activities). (Let all creatures know that) I have friendship with everybody and I have no revenge (animosity or enmity) towards anybody."

Tassa "Michchhami Dukkadam"

Meaning: Michchhami means, to be fruitless (forgiven) and Dukkadam (Dushkrut) means bad deeds.
Therefore the meaning of Michchhami Dukkadam is:
"My bad deeds (with you) be fruitless".
So concept behind saying or writing someone "Michchhami Dukkadam" is that
If I have done any harm to you then those bad deeds (I wish) to be fruitless and beg to be forgiven.

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With a lot of Compassion,

Jai Jinendra, Jai Satchitanand.

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Jinesh Zaveri

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Prayer from the Pratikaman adopted and translated by Dr. P Gada as found on various sites.

My 1 Year with SIF

Dear All,

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On 23 July 2005, I hopelessly vented my frustration with my first mail on Sita Surpanakha in SIF. Swarup liked my mail and this idea and he gave an unfathomable mileage. Satya suggested that I should blog this. And since then I got timely tips from Gorky, and along with others maximum of moral support from Bharti till date. And the support of other brothers is indescribable.

Exactly this day, One year ago I blogged my first article (Sita Surpanakha) and informed 100 odd SIF members. Never did I think then that things would come a looong way. Today this blog completes 1 Year.

Now, exactly today after 365 days, I get pleasure to blog my 50th Post. Its about the field activity that will take place on this Sunday. Meet you there. This time I am proud to inform 1100+ SIF members. Special Thanks to Gokul for contributing in giving fine touches to this matter.

Innocent Victims of IPC 498a & Marital Laws: Standing up for their Rights.

Inviting you for a Seminar cum meeting on 13th August 2006 (Sunday) between 3.00pm-6.pm- At the Press Club of India (Near C.S.T(VT) Station), Glass House, Mahanagar Palika Marg, Mumbai –1

Legal awareness seminar (coping with Misuse of Family laws): Conducted by Save Indian Family foundation (SIF). Laws like IPC 498a is misused and the Husband and his family gets arrested and entangled in long-drawn legal proceedings. Arrests could happen even without any witness, evidence or police investigation, on the basis of just a false complaint by wife. Know how to take precautions and cope with these situations.

We have invited victims from all over India, who will be discussing their problems and would share their harrowing experiences with this law of 498a. Lawyers, Retired senior Judges and Police Officers have expressed their interest in attending this meeting and addressing the concerns of the innocent affected families. We Invite your representative to be present to know more about our movement called “SAVE INDIAN FAMILY”. A rapidly growing internet yahoogroup of 1100+ families. The regional teams in different states of India, have launched self-funded phone helplines, these teams are managed by the guys next door, who happen to be innocent victims of this Legal Terrorism.

A Brief about the Misuse of Section 498a by law-misusing Wives
23 yrs old section 498a of IPC was introduced to tackle the Dowry menace at large. But the trend over the years have proven this section as a failure. Observation of even Supreme of India is that these laws (intended to save a family) have been misused rather than used for genuine reasons.

The potency of misuse in 498a is unfathomable and highly destructive since the Police doesn't need any other supporting evidence or witnesses, other than JUST the wife's statement/complaint, to straight away arrest the Husband and his relatives.

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Major reason of misuse is that the “burden of proof is on the accused” and the “accused is considered guilty, till proven innocent”(opposite to the general legal Maxim which presumes “Innocent till proven Guilty”, as in all other crimes). This involves the mandatory arrests of all the accussed without investigation on a mere complaint of an inconsiderate or cunning wife, against the innocent husband and his family members. Thus damage is already done without crosschecking the verity of the complaint. Generally this tool is effectively misused or threatened to be misused, by the divorcing wives to extract a huge alimony amount from the husband.

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This Nonbailable, Non Compoundable and Cognizable offence has had a conviction rate of just 2% over the years, which itself speak volumes about its low efficacy and usefulness. We are only trying to get these laws amended in such a way that its genuine use will protect families, but its misuse does not break families apart like its happening now.
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Even with so much of misuse and appeals the government is pretending sleep. The general opinion on this law is as follows:
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1: Supreme Court of India on 498A stated, "The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used as a shield and not as assassin's weapon. If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears."-it has unleashed a new form of Legal Terrorism as per Supreme Court.

2. Kiran Bedi says: "Laws had been provided for the welfare of women. The police need not assist those who misuse or abuse the law meant for the protection of women."

3. Justice J D Kapoor Says: ‘‘There is a growing tendency among women, which is further perpetuated by their parents and relatives, to rope in each and every relative, including minors and even schoolgoing children of distant relatives.’’

4. Kolkatta High Court Justice S.P. Talukdar said the “dangerous” practice of misusing Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (cruelty on housewives by husbands and in-laws) should be immediately stopped.

5. NRI Journalist Kulbhushan stated "Filing a non-bailable dowry case under IPC 498A is easier than ordering a meal. But while a restaurant can refuse service, the police normally arrest the groom and the in-laws. While the Indian media is flooded with reports of dowry-related bride torture, it hardly mentions the horrific cases of suffering husbands at the hands of unscrupulous wives."

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We request your august presence at this Seminar cum Member meeting, and to help us to spread the word to the world. Our Movement is called “Save Indian Family or SIF”.
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Contact: Jinesh Zaveri. indianhusbands @ yahoo. com P R Gokul: drmura-@-hotmail. com ; Mumbai Helpline: 9224 33 55 77.