Alimony: The Real Monster

Anything hard-earned and drained out of the pocket is amounted to losses, such chronic state is fatal. The British did that to Indians and Gandhiji fought back by boycotting.

Well I write this as I feel really upset, when my brothers call me up and tell about their state of mind on a day before hearing of interim maintenance or a regular one. I feel "Wives get interim maintenance and Indian Husbands get interim bail."

False 498a and 406 is filed so that money can be sucked out of the boy and he could be dragged to the table by giving him threats or actually dragging him to the court and police. The root cause is the greed of money without working hard. And that is maintenance. Further I have seen genuinely suffering women too not interested in money, but freedom and breaking the chords. Because they have felt the pain. But, well the law is applicable for the law abiding and fearing. The rest simply use, misuse and abuse. With justice prevailing in some cases, The real victims continue to suffer as criminals and real culprits enjoy as sufferers.

Well so far nothing is clear on this DUCKWORTH LEWIS formula of Maintenance law in India. As not all cases coincide at all. It is all on luck. But majority of the cases have seen the boy as a loser. And the girl taking away all the benefit inspite of being capable, able and well-qualified.

The system is programmed to think on one end that women are always innocent and need to be facilitated, should be unconditionally sympathized. Men on the other end are a defamed gender and do not require any shoulder, comfort or relief. I have seen not one, but many lawyers of the boys appointed to tell only one thing that “the laws are in favor of only women and all against men.” But my question to them is what are you all doing? Well and the answer is not expected but clear that they are accommodating themselves rather than suggesting change.

Lawyers very clearly say to the girls’ side that they need not worry about the fees as they would manage with the boy. And the girls also need not worry about the fees officially. As they are managed from the taxes that we pay to the govt (mind you males have a lower Tax ceiling than females)

But has anybody who is seeking genuine reforms in gender equality asked these questions?
Q. Is there any interim divorce for a husband in an abusive relationship? No!

Q. Is there any analysis on How Hindu was that Marriage before the Hindu Marriage Act is slapped while filing a Crpc.125.? No! (for that matter in a non hindu marriages too)

The amount earned by the husband, is earned after a lot of hard work. The lady who is married with him but estranged for ego reasons with no kids and also well educated is also helped with Alimony. And that too anywhere from 50% to 1/3rd to 1/5th of his salary.

Q. My question is will she share the burden or stress of the husband at work? No! infact she is adding on his burden by staying with or away from him with blackmailing laws and taking money by giving no value additions.

Q. Why does not court Order the husband to find a good job for the lady? Why does not court order a study programme?

Q. Why is the legislature not ordering a finishing school programme for the divorced women who could get independent in their own respective fields? Say the education for the girl child is free similarly they should get concession on education programme and get sponsored by the divorcing husband if required.

Q. Why is court Ruling such orders in favor of women that would empower laziness in women and would breed habit of crying and begging and justifying it as a right? (without responsibilities) esp. after the correct ruling of having a daughters share in her fathers property?

Q. Why is male always burdened with a bomb in the name of interim maintenance? Why is he treated as an ATM Machine?

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Q. Is it right to punish the generation C for the wrongs that generation A made and the generation B recognized the same. If Yes then think again because after C is punished D will notice change and give E a reverse benefit and this will go on. Rather do the correction by erasing discriminations and identifying equality and that is how justice would prevail. Otherwise an eye for an eye will make the whole world blind and will take decades and generations to suffer and justify against some people’s school of thought.

Well punish the guilty, but do not make them as a reason to trouble the innocents unnecessarily. I am saying this because while I write this I foresee many who would arguably justify by saying that women have been suffering from centuries but why should the ones who did not do it, suffer?

I know of a friend who is a marketing professional with a top most software company who had to face an interim maintenance order from the court for his estranged wife of 8 months with no kids and a 498a threat. The guy has his old parents of 60+ age to be taken care of along with self, who are physically separate but financially dependent.

Now don’t tell me what the girl would do if the parents have refused to accept her, well punish her parents too. Ok next would be the parents have exhausted the money in dowry. All the more punish the parents TOO for giving the so called dowry, as dowry in urban areas is also given for different reasons.

I remember Jai, who could not admit his father in the best hospital during his ill health and has kept his mothers’ arthritis operation pending. Are most of the judges of the lower court doing justice in alimony cases or they are just doing a clerical application of the law influenced by prevailing trend and false beliefs more as a theorem applied in geometry. After all they are humans.

But as the saying goes “She cried and Judge wiped her tears with my Cheque Book” similarly she cries and the boy has to pay. Just imagine 50% of the salary means the boy would daily work 4 hours for his estranged wife and 4 hrs for himself. If it is 1/3rd of the salary then 10 days for the lazy estranged chief guest and 20 days for self and other family members in the month. 1/5th means one quarter of his full salary would go to the wife who has done a good presentation in the court, with may be biased mindsets on the otherside as told to me by some victims.

But the losing lawyer would say while claiming the fees “What can I do? laws are all in favor of women only”, and still groups at large are crying in front of the public and I am sure they are happy from within since centuries, and more so Now.

My wish is to enable Women to be independent rather than just empowering them with laziness and a ready begging gift package in the name of alimony. "Give her a fish and you feed her for a day, teach her how to fish and you feed her for a life time." That is the real empowerment. But now master Misinterpreters what is your defination of fishing?

With Contempt,

Jinesh Zaveri.