India: Mass Rape V/s Raping the Mass

In past few days Rape wave in the media has again become Bullish. If we believe the headlines trend then it seems like Rapists suddenly have woken up from Slumber and that too in groups. Maybe the bureaucrats want to influence the minds of public via media to pass some stringent laws on rape again with specifics against men and non neutral with loop holes open for misuse. Oh ya we know what would come next, the justification of misuse on men. All I am trying to say is rapes were happening before and are still happening but suddenly they are finding mention in large numbers in media. Here’s to explain how.

Mass Rape: (many persons raping one)
Rape itself is very disturbing, but I get very much disturbed when I read the Gang Rape News; as genuine victim must have undergone such a trauma. I was quite glad when 3 Surat rapists guys were beaten by the public based on the MMS evidence. The Surtis were very kind enough to just kick the victims they could have used rods instead. Gujarat is proudly one of the most politically incorrect states and I am proud to be from Surat.

But in Madhya Pradesh shockingly one 45 yr old lady (Mother of a young Indian Husband) accused of Dowry (u/s 498a) was mass raped by the Bhopal police while in custody on bail denial. I was sure the bail was denied to her as her Rape was on the agenda of the Police. They must have prepared a charge-heavy fictitious FIR on the lady so that she could be denied bail and later Raped. Alas nobody in the media is talking about it beyond a day as there is no media follow up. Where as Surat, Bhayandar and other Gang Rape often find space in the tabloids. Why so ? Just because the other lady is a relative of a husband in the eyes of law hence? This media bias in general has always been there. As they fail to identify mother and sister of a Husband as a lady. Also anyone favoring the husband is perceived as anti social and is taken to task, be it a wife defending her husband for being raped by a lady.

Raping the Mass: (One person raping the entire group)
We have heard of Mass Rape but Lady Raping the Mass goes unheard and unnoticed. In India, a so called helpless lady can Rape the Mass, this frequent activity goes un-noticed very frequently. For example in above news a daughter in law of Bhopal is Raping the family by law and her complain has been instrumental for physical rape on her Mother in law and the report comes in as ritual news with no follow ups by media on the proceedings of the case and no journalist is taking up this as an issue of concern, NCW is Deaf and Mute when it comes to any other lady that is not a wife. Legally she has Raped the Mass called her matrimonial family with the help of the law. Got her MIL physically raped.

The other day another Mass was legally raped by one wife, she did not even spare 2 month old daughter of her ex’s second wife from a 498a. The news article is not clearly stating as to police included the name of the infant in the complain and later destroyed that evidence of mistake or lawyer made money in acquiring the bail or both. But clearly amid all what is ignored is the Legally Raped 8 victim family members of the ex husband who is charge sheeted of 498a to satisfy one wife’s stubbornness.

Rape case is still better than 498a as only the Rapist is the accused. TADA is better as only the terrorist is accused. But 498a is a RAPE of a MASS where all relatives / acquaintances of husband are Legally RAPED by legal terrorism (498a), be it neighbors, long distance relatives or even a 2 month old infant, no one is spared. And this misuse exists in above 80% cases. The infant bail article quotes Ram Jethmalani, Girijaji and others but none have suggested any stringency for the abuse of law. Pretending Sleep?

Rape is Rape be it by a man on woman or woman on man, be it gang rape on a girl or be it a gang rape on a 498a pre trial accussed husband’s mother. And even Mass Rape by virtue of a false complains on a family by legal means is also Rape, sadly out of every 100 cases constituting to 98% arguably fall under the misuse category YoY.

Essay Topic: My Father

Today Evening I heard Rajesh Vakharia of SIF Nagpur sighing to me on the phone that his child did not make it on Fathers Day and he was pining and feeling very lonely for someone calling him Pappa. This pain in the voice inspired me to write this post on what could be the plight of the Child too. As I feel apart from Fathers, children deprived of parental love are the worst to suffer, deprival of father's love being one of them. Meanwhile I just imagined what kind of perception would such kid have, i am attempting to express the same by seeing from the kids' viewpoint in an Essay of 10 Marks in a typical school examination, feel free to assess and give marks. :-)

- Jinesh

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Q7: 10 Marks
Write An Essay: on 1 of the following:
1. My Father
2. My last summer vacation
3. My favourite Sport.

A7)

My Father

My name is Shravan, I am in 3rd Standard. Some days back I discovered that I still have a father. I met him 2-3 times in a building called court and for just from 2oclock to 4oclock, my dad kept on telling to spend some more time with me but momma had to go somewhere and did not want to leave me. But she promised in next few weeks I will meet papa at the same place for 2 hours again.

Before this I saw my father only in the albums of my mausi’s marriage and that too when I asked and asked that time my momma told that person next to she in the photograph is my dad I was not born that time. Till then I felt only Rohan, Nikhil and Aryan have dad, my dad just like shruti’s dad must have got lost in bomb blast in train by terrorists. But then his photograph was not hanging on the wall in the house so I used to wonder. And my mom told me that she is only my papa.

I still do not know why he will meet me only in that building? I do not think he stays or works there. He is always in his TSHIRT with C R I S P or Save Indian Family written on it, it must be his office school uniform. Momma now says he stays in the office because of work. But yes I heard my mom telling my Nani that my last month school fees got late because my fathers salary was late, but because I was standing and mother came to know she smile and keep fingers on lips. I think my father is a manager in a big office.

Now I also tell Varun and abhishek about my father’s meeting, I tell them that he tells this and he does that. We all tell each other about our father. I think there is police problem because there are police also standing in the building. There are many father coming in that building who meet their children. I saw one of the uncle and his daughter in the newspaper on fathers day with my fathers CRISP TShirt, standing next to Mickey Mouse.

On Father’s day all my friends celebrate fathers day but I was feeling like crying. Because my mother said that court building is closed on Sunday. Next time I will take pappa’s mobile number. I want to play cricket just like Aryan plays with his papa. I want to go and see the picture of Hritik Roshan and Abhishek Bachchan with him. I want him to lift me on his shoulders and play mutent niNja with him. I want choclate everyday and not just in that building. I don’t want to wait till next time but get him whenever I want so that I can tell him to buy my games. Aayush and Aarti are brother sisters but I am alone no Father no brother sister.

I promise to study more and do homework on time and play only after that and do whatever mumma says if my father is coming to stay with me. Just like I love my mother I love my father very much. My father tells me whenever he meets me that “I Love You Shravan”. The police and sometimes mummy keeps on looking at us.

Ab kahan bell bajaou?

Which door do we Knock?: Indian Husbands

When the bell bajao campaign hit the screens most of the males who had come for counseling informed me that they too knocked the door of the neighbors when their wives harassed them. In some cases Hubby and his parents were rescued by neighbors from a violent and abusive Surpanakha disguised as Chandi / Sita who would only respect her illogical stubbornness. But in courts these innocents Sr Citizens and their family are treated as criminals and the legal terrorists are funded by state and by her perpetual ATM hubby.

Still some husbands ignorantly trust courts as a recourse (actually so called) for relief till they realize that even courts are helpless. Husbands do a Bell Bajao at the courts in other words they knock the doors of courts hoping (under the false impression) that courts can grant divorce to Indian Husbands easily in India. Alas, Even Judges believe that Divorce by male is anti traditional and the same decision by female is pro modern and it reflects in the hearings and then in judgements.

And worst would be when his fate meets the bench of Katjuji and Vermaji. This bench defied the 5th habit of Stephan Covey of “Seek first to understand and then being understood” and that is ‘if I can see through my specs your vision numbers are irrelevant even you should be able and should see only through my specs.' The bench proved it by saying "Hum sab bhogi hai (we are all sufferers)." And also “The bench further said that a husband has to accept the suggestion of a wife irrespective of the fact whether it is sensible or not.” "If your wife asks you to put your face that side, put it that side. If she says, put it this side, then put it this side. Otherwise you will face trouble. (Are they suggesting legal terrorism?) Link to this news

I once again mention that the spouse on receiving end is ready to barter anything for peace and freedom instead of putting conditions, be it man (mostly) or woman (women even with a legal advantage wants to get rid, if she is really abused). Almost all harassed guys have a mindset for their other halves and that is “What will you take to help me get rid of you?” Some fight for the whole life and reach the Supreme Court.

One such case reached SC after a long battle of anticipating freedom from the clutches of an abusive wife who has abused and charged the husband to be in all sorts of crimes. The retired Air Force officer (husband) offered Rs. 10,00,000 (Rupees One Million) to his wife as a one time settlement of the dispute in the “eyes” of the court. To which the ostensibly biased court advised the Jew to obey the domestic and legal Hitler. Another Henpecked approach by the court who arguably ignored the charges by the husband and the cruelty on him. This is not for the first time that the courts are suggesting hubbies to be henpecked or handcuffed. Some days back another 17 yr old case was featured in TOI against the husband who wanted a legal divorce but SC ordered him to take back his wife inspite of all the false charges against him and the pain of lifetime.

Yaar, these are hearings / judgements, they may or may not affect other hearings, they may or may not dictate a precedent, but just imagine series of cases where a husband wants to stay away from an abusive spouse who thinks abusing as her moral right. He is ready to pay her for the nuisance value and mental peace after almost a battle of decade and a half is ordered to compromise beyond his comfort. Just because the wife has a fail safe 498a/DV/Alimony misuse and hubby has no shield.

Where would the husbands go and knock the door???? Who would listen to them?

Bell Bajao!!!! Par kahan? Where?

Shayad Mandir Mein (May be in Temple) Hey Ishwar are you listening?

Are koi hai? (Is anyone there?)
Knock Knock, Ring Ring,

Jinesh Zaveri.